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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 621693" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>Nancy, one can ban themselves from casinos also here, and difficult child has except one with a very good sport bar his friends frequent around where we live. But the thing is, that difficult child has never gambled in the casino, not even a one coin. When he was last gambling he was still minor and casinos are very strict about age limits. We also have slot machines in balcony of every supermarket, gas station and what not, but those have neither been a real problem for him. His gambling has been in online casinos. One can get a ban to also those and he has for all the big ones and ones he used to use. But there are so many of them and new are coming all the time that keeping up the banning list would be a huge work - and would require actively browsing to find new casinos that of course would be counter-productive. However there are programs for computers, phones etc. that prevent access to online casinos and difficult child has those in all of his gadgets. Of course one can get around them, if one really wants but they do help to prevent impulsive slips middle of the night. However this time difficult child was using ex-girlfriend's new boyfriend's tablet while she was sleeping (yes, just that messy.)</p><p></p><p>For him gambling always was a very secretive thing he did alone, even his friends didn't know he was gambling when he was active. From the beginning it was something he was ashamed of. And still is.</p><p></p><p>To be honest the actual slip doesn't worry me much. Especially when I only found out over a month later and he had already dealt with it with quite well. Apparently also ex-girlfriend issue is now finally more or less over. What does concern me is his self-hatred. He never seems to be able to cut himself a little slack or being kind to himself. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /></p><p></p><p>He has always been driven and perfectionist and at times those things work for him, but they also really hurt him, because he simply doesn't accept anything he considers failure from himself and is so very hard on himself over things. And when he can't bottle it up anymore, he acts out.</p><p></p><p>You know, it absolutely hoovers to watch, how your own character flaws that you passed on both trough genetics and through modelling come back to bite your kid's butt big time. And he is even worse in this than I am, never seemed to learn anything from his dad's and brother's much more laid back attitude. My Boy - and at times I hate it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 621693, member: 14557"] Nancy, one can ban themselves from casinos also here, and difficult child has except one with a very good sport bar his friends frequent around where we live. But the thing is, that difficult child has never gambled in the casino, not even a one coin. When he was last gambling he was still minor and casinos are very strict about age limits. We also have slot machines in balcony of every supermarket, gas station and what not, but those have neither been a real problem for him. His gambling has been in online casinos. One can get a ban to also those and he has for all the big ones and ones he used to use. But there are so many of them and new are coming all the time that keeping up the banning list would be a huge work - and would require actively browsing to find new casinos that of course would be counter-productive. However there are programs for computers, phones etc. that prevent access to online casinos and difficult child has those in all of his gadgets. Of course one can get around them, if one really wants but they do help to prevent impulsive slips middle of the night. However this time difficult child was using ex-girlfriend's new boyfriend's tablet while she was sleeping (yes, just that messy.) For him gambling always was a very secretive thing he did alone, even his friends didn't know he was gambling when he was active. From the beginning it was something he was ashamed of. And still is. To be honest the actual slip doesn't worry me much. Especially when I only found out over a month later and he had already dealt with it with quite well. Apparently also ex-girlfriend issue is now finally more or less over. What does concern me is his self-hatred. He never seems to be able to cut himself a little slack or being kind to himself. :( He has always been driven and perfectionist and at times those things work for him, but they also really hurt him, because he simply doesn't accept anything he considers failure from himself and is so very hard on himself over things. And when he can't bottle it up anymore, he acts out. You know, it absolutely hoovers to watch, how your own character flaws that you passed on both trough genetics and through modelling come back to bite your kid's butt big time. And he is even worse in this than I am, never seemed to learn anything from his dad's and brother's much more laid back attitude. My Boy - and at times I hate it. [/QUOTE]
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