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adilt daughter on her ion stealing me blind, and moved boyfriend in. Give me advive
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 703577" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>The one comment I forgot to make is about your question, <em>where did you go wrong?</em></p><p></p><p>Nowhere. Your child is now an adult. Like all the rest of us, you have no control over her choices; just over your own. She is using you as a receptacle for her own consequences, her own lack of responsibility, her own lack of control. You do not have to accept this from her.</p><p></p><p>It is your responsibility now to yourself and to her, to set limits, as if she were 2 years old and trying to let loose of your hand, to run in the street.</p><p></p><p>But this time it is the reverse: she needs you to let go, so that she can save herself, <em>if she chooses. </em>The more we shield them from consequences, the worse it is for everybody. You are off to a strong start. Nobody could have done better, in your circumstances.</p><p></p><p>I certainly hope you do continue posting here. This is a great community and the act of posting very much helps gain clarity, relief and release, as well as support.</p><p></p><p>Take care.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 703577, member: 18958"] The one comment I forgot to make is about your question, [I]where did you go wrong?[/I] Nowhere. Your child is now an adult. Like all the rest of us, you have no control over her choices; just over your own. She is using you as a receptacle for her own consequences, her own lack of responsibility, her own lack of control. You do not have to accept this from her. It is your responsibility now to yourself and to her, to set limits, as if she were 2 years old and trying to let loose of your hand, to run in the street. But this time it is the reverse: she needs you to let go, so that she can save herself, [I]if she chooses. [/I]The more we shield them from consequences, the worse it is for everybody. You are off to a strong start. Nobody could have done better, in your circumstances. I certainly hope you do continue posting here. This is a great community and the act of posting very much helps gain clarity, relief and release, as well as support. Take care. [/QUOTE]
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