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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 549448" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>My difficult child had so many adoption issues growing up and I still think the adoption is at the root of a lot of her self esteem issues which then affects her behavior, but by far the most influencing factor in her life is her genes. She has followed down the exact same path as her bm down to the smallest of details. We gave her the opportunity to reunite woth her bm in an effort to give her some peace and closure but bm did not follow through. I get that adoption leaves a hole in their heart that a mac truck could drive through and we cannot begin to understand or fill it. But it really bothers me that we are the ones there for them to love them and wipe their tears and care for them and celebrate their birthdays and their successes and help them cope with their disappointments and we are the ones who advocate for them and go out on a limb for and never ever stopped loving or supporting them, and yet we are the ones they turn against and take all their anger and resentment out on when it should go elsewhere.</p><p></p><p>I'm so glad your easy child has been able to reconcile her conflicting feelings. If we could find a way to get our difficult child's to do the same they would be much better off.</p><p></p><p>Nancy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 549448, member: 59"] My difficult child had so many adoption issues growing up and I still think the adoption is at the root of a lot of her self esteem issues which then affects her behavior, but by far the most influencing factor in her life is her genes. She has followed down the exact same path as her bm down to the smallest of details. We gave her the opportunity to reunite woth her bm in an effort to give her some peace and closure but bm did not follow through. I get that adoption leaves a hole in their heart that a mac truck could drive through and we cannot begin to understand or fill it. But it really bothers me that we are the ones there for them to love them and wipe their tears and care for them and celebrate their birthdays and their successes and help them cope with their disappointments and we are the ones who advocate for them and go out on a limb for and never ever stopped loving or supporting them, and yet we are the ones they turn against and take all their anger and resentment out on when it should go elsewhere. I'm so glad your easy child has been able to reconcile her conflicting feelings. If we could find a way to get our difficult child's to do the same they would be much better off. Nancy [/QUOTE]
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