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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 241175" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>We were told it is because they don't even consider the birthfather in the equaltion. It is their birthmother who placed them for adoption, usually the birthfather is not in the picture. They don't stop to think about the procreation part of having a child, that there has to be a male and female. They only know that they didn't stay with their birthmothers, and therefore it is the adoptive mom who gets the brunt of their anger.</p><p></p><p>Our difficult child thought I took her away from her birthmom and my husband had nothing to do with it. I truly think for a time she thought he was her birthfather, never giving a thought to the fact that there was a birthfather out there somewhere that also left her. She has never resented husband like she has me. She has never asked about her birthfather. She doesn't project her misplaced anger onto husband like she does on me. </p><p></p><p>Just the other day I found some "postsecrets" that she had written and one of them read, "I am afraid I love my birthmother more than my parents."</p><p></p><p>Nancy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 241175, member: 59"] We were told it is because they don't even consider the birthfather in the equaltion. It is their birthmother who placed them for adoption, usually the birthfather is not in the picture. They don't stop to think about the procreation part of having a child, that there has to be a male and female. They only know that they didn't stay with their birthmothers, and therefore it is the adoptive mom who gets the brunt of their anger. Our difficult child thought I took her away from her birthmom and my husband had nothing to do with it. I truly think for a time she thought he was her birthfather, never giving a thought to the fact that there was a birthfather out there somewhere that also left her. She has never resented husband like she has me. She has never asked about her birthfather. She doesn't project her misplaced anger onto husband like she does on me. Just the other day I found some "postsecrets" that she had written and one of them read, "I am afraid I love my birthmother more than my parents." Nancy [/QUOTE]
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