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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 382506" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Four adopted kids and my biological son was probably the second hardest to raise. The outcomes:</p><p></p><p>Oldest son is 32 adopted at six from Hong Kong: in my opinion he was too old to be adopted and did not bond. He was not a behavior problem and always got great grades and is very successful, but not close to any of us. He won't see me. I have no idea why. suspect attachment issues.</p><p></p><p>Daughter, 26, adopted from Korea as a baby. Very bonded. Went through a drug period in high school, but is straight-arrow now (almost self-righteous about drug users). Very bright, in college, a bit moody, we are close.</p><p></p><p>Son, 17, adopted out of foster care and drug exposed before birth. High functioning autism. Good kid, but he'll need help all his life. Came at two and is very attached, especially, to me. </p><p></p><p>Daughter 14, local private adoption. Met her parents. Birthmom is a love...I really care about her. She let us watch daughter's birth and, outside the hospital, she said good-bye to daughter then handed her to me and we hugged. It was very touching. Birthdad has struggled with drugs. This daughter is the best kid on earth. Very down-to-earth, no mental health issues, some learning disabilities but getting better, a social butterfly and the most fun kid of all of them. She is extremely close to both of us, and is daddy's girl. I think it helps that she's seen e-mails and letters from birthmother explaining her decision and telling her how much she and I loved one another. One day we will all meet again, I'm sure. Daughter clearly inherited her birthmother's stabiity and common sense, thank god.</p><p></p><p>It varies a lot.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 382506, member: 1550"] Four adopted kids and my biological son was probably the second hardest to raise. The outcomes: Oldest son is 32 adopted at six from Hong Kong: in my opinion he was too old to be adopted and did not bond. He was not a behavior problem and always got great grades and is very successful, but not close to any of us. He won't see me. I have no idea why. suspect attachment issues. Daughter, 26, adopted from Korea as a baby. Very bonded. Went through a drug period in high school, but is straight-arrow now (almost self-righteous about drug users). Very bright, in college, a bit moody, we are close. Son, 17, adopted out of foster care and drug exposed before birth. High functioning autism. Good kid, but he'll need help all his life. Came at two and is very attached, especially, to me. Daughter 14, local private adoption. Met her parents. Birthmom is a love...I really care about her. She let us watch daughter's birth and, outside the hospital, she said good-bye to daughter then handed her to me and we hugged. It was very touching. Birthdad has struggled with drugs. This daughter is the best kid on earth. Very down-to-earth, no mental health issues, some learning disabilities but getting better, a social butterfly and the most fun kid of all of them. She is extremely close to both of us, and is daddy's girl. I think it helps that she's seen e-mails and letters from birthmother explaining her decision and telling her how much she and I loved one another. One day we will all meet again, I'm sure. Daughter clearly inherited her birthmother's stabiity and common sense, thank god. It varies a lot. [/QUOTE]
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