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<blockquote data-quote="elizabrary" data-source="post: 750812" data-attributes="member: 11235"><p>Wow- your story sounds eerily similar to mine. The only difference is my daughter has gotten herself together over the last few years, for the most part. However, I have been through nearly identical circumstances. Yes, let your daughter move out and do what she does. If you find out she is drinking again you will have to call CPS to make sure the kids are being properly cared for. I know it sucks. I have called at least 5 times on my own daughter. You have to set and maintain boundaries with her. This means when you tell her no to something you have to stick to it. If she is to continue staying with you then you need to write out your expectations for her to follow- have a job, contribute 30% of her income to the household, basic chores. I even wrote out a point that my daughter had to ask me a week in advance to babysit for her, otherwise she would completely take advantage. Then go over it with your daughter and have her sign it. If she doesn't follow through on something she has to go. I had to put my daughter out when my granddaughter was an infant and it was snowing. I barely slept I was so worried about them, but she showed up the next day with a car someone GAVE her and got the rest of her stuff. These adult kids are fantastically resourceful and always seem to find someone else to manipulate when things get tough. Be forewarned- once you start setting and maintaining boundaries she will likely up the ante and start acting even crazier. When my daughter was disrespectful on the phone I started just hanging up on her. She would call all my phones over and over, leaving screaming messages, etc. It was insane. I had to turn all my phones off. She's come around over time and I learned to put my focus on myself and expect her to behave like a proper adult. It's hard at first, but you need to focus on your own health and well being!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="elizabrary, post: 750812, member: 11235"] Wow- your story sounds eerily similar to mine. The only difference is my daughter has gotten herself together over the last few years, for the most part. However, I have been through nearly identical circumstances. Yes, let your daughter move out and do what she does. If you find out she is drinking again you will have to call CPS to make sure the kids are being properly cared for. I know it sucks. I have called at least 5 times on my own daughter. You have to set and maintain boundaries with her. This means when you tell her no to something you have to stick to it. If she is to continue staying with you then you need to write out your expectations for her to follow- have a job, contribute 30% of her income to the household, basic chores. I even wrote out a point that my daughter had to ask me a week in advance to babysit for her, otherwise she would completely take advantage. Then go over it with your daughter and have her sign it. If she doesn't follow through on something she has to go. I had to put my daughter out when my granddaughter was an infant and it was snowing. I barely slept I was so worried about them, but she showed up the next day with a car someone GAVE her and got the rest of her stuff. These adult kids are fantastically resourceful and always seem to find someone else to manipulate when things get tough. Be forewarned- once you start setting and maintaining boundaries she will likely up the ante and start acting even crazier. When my daughter was disrespectful on the phone I started just hanging up on her. She would call all my phones over and over, leaving screaming messages, etc. It was insane. I had to turn all my phones off. She's come around over time and I learned to put my focus on myself and expect her to behave like a proper adult. It's hard at first, but you need to focus on your own health and well being! [/QUOTE]
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