This is my first post. I am looking for guidance as we all are in dealing with difficult adult children. My adult daughter is about to turn 26, has one child and another on the way. As of now, she technically doesn't have a home, no car and no full-time job. She currently stays, not lives with us. She was just recently approved for a PELL grant and will use some of that money to get an apartment. So she thinks she can go to school, have a full-time job and no car all with a 3 year old and a new born. She thinks we are all crazy and her thinking isn't backwards. My parents don't know she is pregnant but they offered her the use of their car. They are at the top of the list when it comes to enabling as they have done this with my brother for many years. While she stays at our house she makes little to no effort to clean up after herself or my granddaughter. I made it clear that I am not doing this again. I love my granddaughter like my own, she spent a lot of time with us up until February when my daughter stopped drinking because she was pregnant, and I actually just found out she was pregnant a couple of weeks ago, she's due in October 22. She hasn't had a full-time job since before my granddaughter was born. She has no license because of unpaid tickets. My plan is to let her get her own place and do what she's going to do. What's to say that she's not going to start drinking again after this baby is born? She's had 3 years to get a job, car and a place to live, but she did nothing. I am not sure what to do. Anyone with a similar situation? I just don't know what to do or where to turn. I don't want to be a heartless mom, but I can't keep letting her take advantage of us.