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Adult daughter stole entire life savings-Part 2
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 629869" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Jeanne, I have been studying antisocial personality disorder, which is the one where a person has no conscience and has no problem ripping anyone off...and no guilt. You said "rare." It is NOT rare. It's scary how rare it's NOT. Most antisocials don't end up in prison, although many do, but they guess that one in twenty-five people are antisocial. That's a lot more than those who have schizophrenia or bipolar (1 in 100). The worst part about those with this personality wiring is that they are charming on the surface and very able to fool others into trusting them.</p><p></p><p>You can forgive, if you consider that the forgiveness is not for the other person. It is for you. It is to say "I forgive you, now i'm not going to think about it every minute of my life and I'm moving on." It doesn't matter if the other person wants to be forgiven or not. It is a personal decision that helps you come to peace with your life. It is very common to hear forgive, don't forget, and that's smart. Sadly, and many of us have to deal with pretty nasty adult kids too, we need to be on guard and face what our adult children really are; who they are, to protect ourselves and our other loved ones.</p><p></p><p>Have you read any books by Robert Hare? Very fascinating, in dept studies on antisocial personality, which I suspect is in my family DNA somewhere. The brains of these people are wired differently. I've seen documentaries on television too. They do not have the ability to care about other people. I think it's in the frontal lobe somewhere...wires are not connecting. It was too complex for me, but I got the message....you are born that way.</p><p></p><p>One part of the documentary that I remember clearly is that they did studies on people who had Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) and those without it. Those with Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) reacted differently to certain horrific scenes than those who did not have it. The ones without it got notably upset with body signals indicating it when shown sick or hurt or tortured people while the ASDers did not have much of a reaction at all. They tend to have little fear as well as lack of empathy and a conscience. That is what makes them so dangerous.</p><p></p><p>To date, and I hope this changes, there is no cure and most ASDs don't want to change. Do I think your daughter has it? Well, I'm not Dr. Hare. Based on the little I know (and it's little) I think so, and if she does and if you suspect she does, you will have to be leery of her for the rest of her life. Trust me, you are not the only one here with kids who are antisocial. She just is very smart and took it very far.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 629869, member: 1550"] Jeanne, I have been studying antisocial personality disorder, which is the one where a person has no conscience and has no problem ripping anyone off...and no guilt. You said "rare." It is NOT rare. It's scary how rare it's NOT. Most antisocials don't end up in prison, although many do, but they guess that one in twenty-five people are antisocial. That's a lot more than those who have schizophrenia or bipolar (1 in 100). The worst part about those with this personality wiring is that they are charming on the surface and very able to fool others into trusting them. You can forgive, if you consider that the forgiveness is not for the other person. It is for you. It is to say "I forgive you, now i'm not going to think about it every minute of my life and I'm moving on." It doesn't matter if the other person wants to be forgiven or not. It is a personal decision that helps you come to peace with your life. It is very common to hear forgive, don't forget, and that's smart. Sadly, and many of us have to deal with pretty nasty adult kids too, we need to be on guard and face what our adult children really are; who they are, to protect ourselves and our other loved ones. Have you read any books by Robert Hare? Very fascinating, in dept studies on antisocial personality, which I suspect is in my family DNA somewhere. The brains of these people are wired differently. I've seen documentaries on television too. They do not have the ability to care about other people. I think it's in the frontal lobe somewhere...wires are not connecting. It was too complex for me, but I got the message....you are born that way. One part of the documentary that I remember clearly is that they did studies on people who had Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) and those without it. Those with Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) reacted differently to certain horrific scenes than those who did not have it. The ones without it got notably upset with body signals indicating it when shown sick or hurt or tortured people while the ASDers did not have much of a reaction at all. They tend to have little fear as well as lack of empathy and a conscience. That is what makes them so dangerous. To date, and I hope this changes, there is no cure and most ASDs don't want to change. Do I think your daughter has it? Well, I'm not Dr. Hare. Based on the little I know (and it's little) I think so, and if she does and if you suspect she does, you will have to be leery of her for the rest of her life. Trust me, you are not the only one here with kids who are antisocial. She just is very smart and took it very far. [/QUOTE]
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