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Adult daughter stole entire life savings
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 627646" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I am reading the book "Boundaries" by Townsend and Cloud right now and it's wonderful. Their answer would be that you owe nobody an explanation and that you should be very careful about what you choose to share with whom. </p><p></p><p>I would not tell anyone except a trusted person, friend or family, who you KNOW BY EXPERIENCE will keep it to themselves and honestly understands or cares. That may mean you share it with nobody, but it really is not anyone's business.</p><p></p><p>"I'd rather not to discuss her," would be appropriate. You don't owe anybody the story you told us. Many of us share too much and are very sorry in the end as many people do not respect what we are told and spread it far and wide and judge us and even toss it in our faces. If they get offended, oh well. It really is not something they need to know because it doesn't affect them. If you get pressure, insist firmly "I would rather not talk about her." You don't owe anyone anything. The more people you tell, the further it will spread and the more you'll have to hear about it from "understanding" people (cough) and you won't be able to grieve yourself anymore. You'll have an Army and people can like gossip. They will probably call you just to catch up on the latest between you and your daughter, and that could hurt.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 627646, member: 1550"] I am reading the book "Boundaries" by Townsend and Cloud right now and it's wonderful. Their answer would be that you owe nobody an explanation and that you should be very careful about what you choose to share with whom. I would not tell anyone except a trusted person, friend or family, who you KNOW BY EXPERIENCE will keep it to themselves and honestly understands or cares. That may mean you share it with nobody, but it really is not anyone's business. "I'd rather not to discuss her," would be appropriate. You don't owe anybody the story you told us. Many of us share too much and are very sorry in the end as many people do not respect what we are told and spread it far and wide and judge us and even toss it in our faces. If they get offended, oh well. It really is not something they need to know because it doesn't affect them. If you get pressure, insist firmly "I would rather not talk about her." You don't owe anyone anything. The more people you tell, the further it will spread and the more you'll have to hear about it from "understanding" people (cough) and you won't be able to grieve yourself anymore. You'll have an Army and people can like gossip. They will probably call you just to catch up on the latest between you and your daughter, and that could hurt. [/QUOTE]
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