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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 627660" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>When we are struggling to understand the borders of a betrayal, we don't know yet ourselves how we feel about what has happened. For now, you are still coping with the fact of all of it, still a little in shock that it happened, that it <em>could</em> happen. That shocky feeling may resonate for years. </p><p></p><p>Take very good care of yourself during this time.</p><p></p><p>NO ONE HAS A RIGHT TO KNOW ANY OF IT UNTIL YOU KNOW THE EXTENT OF THE BETRAYAL YOURSELF. NO ONE HAS A RIGHT TO KNOW ANY OF IT UNTIL YOU ARE READY TO TALK ABOUT IT, AND BY THAT TIME, YOU WILL NOT NEED TO TALK ABOUT IT. THIS IS NOT CHILD'S PLAY. PROTECT YOURSELF AND YOUR HUSBAND.</p><p></p><p>The horror of it, the part that makes you faint and sick and that undoes you...I think that has not happened, yet. </p><p></p><p>That will come, I think, once you no longer have to focus on proving the extent of the crime.</p><p></p><p>You and husband have a right, and a responsibility to yourselves, to keep every shred of information under wraps until you have become intimately familiar with the degree of betrayal, until you have been able to sift through and understand the nuances of what has happened, yourselves.</p><p></p><p>MWM is right. There are people in this world who will use your tragedy to elevate themselves.</p><p></p><p>When I have been recently traumatized by difficult child daughter, I cannot keep it together. If I speak so much as a word about what is really going on, I lose it. I babble out the horror of it. I can't stop. It's like I am watching myself, and I wish I would just shut up, but I can't. I am never happy to have done this. It is not cathartic. It leaves me feeling abused and broken. I dislike being pitied, dislike crying in public. I feel a flash of hatred for those who, because of what I told them in the freshness of my vulnerability, have learned to hate my child, or to view her with suspicion or contempt for my sake. </p><p></p><p>I hate that. </p><p></p><p>There is a place inside where our emotions get so riled up we don't know how we feel. </p><p></p><p>Promise yourself now that, until this is over and you know for sure what happened, you will say nothing.</p><p></p><p>That you have found this site, that you can share what happened openly and in anonymity will help you to do this.</p><p></p><p>If someone is so rude as to ask, consider their willingness to rip your heart out for the sake of a juicy tidbit or two, and say: "What is it you would like to know?" (People generally have a pretty good idea about what is going on with your child, already.) I did that with my sister. Her response: "Nothing. I know, already."</p><p></p><p>See what I mean? </p><p></p><p>She wanted the bloody tidbit. Something fresher, something still festering. </p><p></p><p>And she wanted me to know she knew.</p><p></p><p>What has happened to you and to your child should not be fodder for the cheap shot artist or the gossip monger to snatch that last, bloodied scrap of whatever is left of you.</p><p></p><p>"Thank you for asking. What is it you want to know?"</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 627660, member: 17461"] When we are struggling to understand the borders of a betrayal, we don't know yet ourselves how we feel about what has happened. For now, you are still coping with the fact of all of it, still a little in shock that it happened, that it [I]could[/I] happen. That shocky feeling may resonate for years. Take very good care of yourself during this time. NO ONE HAS A RIGHT TO KNOW ANY OF IT UNTIL YOU KNOW THE EXTENT OF THE BETRAYAL YOURSELF. NO ONE HAS A RIGHT TO KNOW ANY OF IT UNTIL YOU ARE READY TO TALK ABOUT IT, AND BY THAT TIME, YOU WILL NOT NEED TO TALK ABOUT IT. THIS IS NOT CHILD'S PLAY. PROTECT YOURSELF AND YOUR HUSBAND. The horror of it, the part that makes you faint and sick and that undoes you...I think that has not happened, yet. That will come, I think, once you no longer have to focus on proving the extent of the crime. You and husband have a right, and a responsibility to yourselves, to keep every shred of information under wraps until you have become intimately familiar with the degree of betrayal, until you have been able to sift through and understand the nuances of what has happened, yourselves. MWM is right. There are people in this world who will use your tragedy to elevate themselves. When I have been recently traumatized by difficult child daughter, I cannot keep it together. If I speak so much as a word about what is really going on, I lose it. I babble out the horror of it. I can't stop. It's like I am watching myself, and I wish I would just shut up, but I can't. I am never happy to have done this. It is not cathartic. It leaves me feeling abused and broken. I dislike being pitied, dislike crying in public. I feel a flash of hatred for those who, because of what I told them in the freshness of my vulnerability, have learned to hate my child, or to view her with suspicion or contempt for my sake. I hate that. There is a place inside where our emotions get so riled up we don't know how we feel. Promise yourself now that, until this is over and you know for sure what happened, you will say nothing. That you have found this site, that you can share what happened openly and in anonymity will help you to do this. If someone is so rude as to ask, consider their willingness to rip your heart out for the sake of a juicy tidbit or two, and say: "What is it you would like to know?" (People generally have a pretty good idea about what is going on with your child, already.) I did that with my sister. Her response: "Nothing. I know, already." See what I mean? She wanted the bloody tidbit. Something fresher, something still festering. And she wanted me to know she knew. What has happened to you and to your child should not be fodder for the cheap shot artist or the gossip monger to snatch that last, bloodied scrap of whatever is left of you. "Thank you for asking. What is it you want to know?" Cedar [/QUOTE]
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