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<blockquote data-quote="jeanne in CA" data-source="post: 627755" data-attributes="member: 18036"><p>Ok, I have to admit you do make me laugh which is wonderful. Can I use those lines if I mentally give you credit? </p><p> </p><p>The best way to describe our situation is to think of one very large puzzle that is made up of over twenty-three smaller puzzles. Each small puzzle has its own set of details that I painstakingly had to piece together before they could all be put in place to see the larger picture. Unfortunately, our big picture was not an attractive one, permeated as it is with our daughter’s lying and cheating, and the resulting, bone-deep sense of betrayal and devastation we felt. Uncovering that picture has already taken over a year of daily discovery that routinely consisted of twelve hours a day gathering data, analyzing data, and putting the pieces together. </p><p>It has been heartbreaking work. There are no words for the shame, humiliation, and anxiety I felt each day as I tried to pry information out of the clutches of uncaring, impersonal, or even incompetent individuals who had the ability to either provide me with information regarding my own accounts or simply insist I obtain a search warrant before they would tell me anything. They often hid behind policy and procedural issues and found every way possible to not help me. I had cried nearly every day for the past three years as I tried in vain to deal with my mother’s death and one financial crisis after another. Once I found out who had caused it all, I broke down every time I spoke to anyone. I cried because I was ashamed to be in this situation. I cried because the story sounded incredible even to my own ears. I cried because every time I asked for information about our own accounts, I had to recount the reasons why I needed it. I cried when people were mean and I cried when they were kind. I cried because every time I got the information I needed, that information came with new discovery of the depths of our daughter’s betrayal. And, I cried because I knew I had no options but to carry on. My husband and I had agreed early on that she had to be stopped before she ruined other lives beyond ours. As her parents, stopping her was our responsibility, as difficult as we knew that would be. </p><p> </p><p>The best thing so far to happen to us is the detective who is investigating our case. He believes every word I have told him and of course it helps that I had concrete proof. We live in a pretty big city in northern CA and he said it is the biggest case they have had. Unfortunately they do not have a dedicated fraud unit so that, coupled with the complexity, really slows things down. He told me this week that he things we are getting closer to the DA filing charges. He is only waiting to get the information back from a couple of additional search warrants that show that all the emails and banking documents were coming from her ip address rather than a bank. (He has to write separate warrants for everything!)</p><p> </p><p>Thanks again for your kind words and support.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="jeanne in CA, post: 627755, member: 18036"] Ok, I have to admit you do make me laugh which is wonderful. Can I use those lines if I mentally give you credit? The best way to describe our situation is to think of one very large puzzle that is made up of over twenty-three smaller puzzles. Each small puzzle has its own set of details that I painstakingly had to piece together before they could all be put in place to see the larger picture. Unfortunately, our big picture was not an attractive one, permeated as it is with our daughter’s lying and cheating, and the resulting, bone-deep sense of betrayal and devastation we felt. Uncovering that picture has already taken over a year of daily discovery that routinely consisted of twelve hours a day gathering data, analyzing data, and putting the pieces together. It has been heartbreaking work. There are no words for the shame, humiliation, and anxiety I felt each day as I tried to pry information out of the clutches of uncaring, impersonal, or even incompetent individuals who had the ability to either provide me with information regarding my own accounts or simply insist I obtain a search warrant before they would tell me anything. They often hid behind policy and procedural issues and found every way possible to not help me. I had cried nearly every day for the past three years as I tried in vain to deal with my mother’s death and one financial crisis after another. Once I found out who had caused it all, I broke down every time I spoke to anyone. I cried because I was ashamed to be in this situation. I cried because the story sounded incredible even to my own ears. I cried because every time I asked for information about our own accounts, I had to recount the reasons why I needed it. I cried when people were mean and I cried when they were kind. I cried because every time I got the information I needed, that information came with new discovery of the depths of our daughter’s betrayal. And, I cried because I knew I had no options but to carry on. My husband and I had agreed early on that she had to be stopped before she ruined other lives beyond ours. As her parents, stopping her was our responsibility, as difficult as we knew that would be. The best thing so far to happen to us is the detective who is investigating our case. He believes every word I have told him and of course it helps that I had concrete proof. We live in a pretty big city in northern CA and he said it is the biggest case they have had. Unfortunately they do not have a dedicated fraud unit so that, coupled with the complexity, really slows things down. He told me this week that he things we are getting closer to the DA filing charges. He is only waiting to get the information back from a couple of additional search warrants that show that all the emails and banking documents were coming from her ip address rather than a bank. (He has to write separate warrants for everything!) Thanks again for your kind words and support. [/QUOTE]
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