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<blockquote data-quote="jeanne in CA" data-source="post: 627808" data-attributes="member: 18036"><p>Believe me, everything I say is true. I have already given the police every piece of evidence I have and the detective is behind us on this. She is definitely a con-artist. I doubt that she has done anything like this to anyone else for the simple reason she didn't have to. She had us. Subsequent to our cutting off ties a year ago I have discovered a couple of small cons she pulled on other people and turned that information over to the police as well. One was a rubber check for her maternity pictures (really, who would make this stuff up?) for over $600 and then told the photographer that it was a bank error and then produced a letter from the bank taking responsibility for the errors. Classic. The other was agreeing to trade a woman on-line a very expensive Louis Vuitton purse for one of her own (that cost over $1000 and came out of my bank account I later found out). When the woman sent her the purse, our daughter claimed it was a fake and then refused to send her the one she promised in trade. </p><p> </p><p>Her skills are absolutely at the highest level which is why we were hoping someone else was involved and perhaps talked her into doing these things. There was no way we thought she had the technical ability to do this stuff. To date, we have found absolutely no evidence indicating anyone else was involved at all. </p><p> </p><p>As for my husband and I, we are determine not to let this define how we live. There was enormous stress between us for a very long time, first because he couldn't understand why we were having all the problems and why on earth I could not get them resolved. He offered to help but I kept telling him I was working on it and showing him proof (emails, statements, letters etc. later determined to be forgeries) that I had bankers and high level management people working on everything. Since I had handled all the accounts and bills etc for the entire time we have been together, it made sense that I was the one trying to unravel things. Also, my name was on most everything so we knew they wouldn't even talk to him. </p><p> </p><p>Things are better between us now. Once we found out who was responsible, it finally made sense as devastating as it was. He is simply frozen. He can't deal with the mess and I can't deal with much other than the mess. He is supportive of my efforts and says he doesn't know how I do it. But, really, who else? If he can't deal with it and the police couldn't unravel it, my choices were limited. Either get to the bottom of things myself or let it go. </p><p> </p><p>Financially, once we got the theft stopped and we filed Chapter 13, at least the bill collectors stopped calling, mailing, and showing up at our door. I went back to work part time and between that and the tax amendment we were able to pay off my brother which was such an emotional burden. I will carry the guilt from that for the rest of my life. Our Chapter 13 attorney is working with the creditors explaining that the debts were not ours but in the meantime the attorney bills have amounted to thousands. </p><p> </p><p>As for coping, I sometimes binge on green tea and mindless tv. I would take up drinking but can't afford the alcohol. Same for drugs. lol</p><p> </p><p>We are still very blessed in many ways. We have my family, our son, and our retirement income. We are still together and still in good health. We know that there are very stressful times ahead and are trying to prepare.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="jeanne in CA, post: 627808, member: 18036"] Believe me, everything I say is true. I have already given the police every piece of evidence I have and the detective is behind us on this. She is definitely a con-artist. I doubt that she has done anything like this to anyone else for the simple reason she didn't have to. She had us. Subsequent to our cutting off ties a year ago I have discovered a couple of small cons she pulled on other people and turned that information over to the police as well. One was a rubber check for her maternity pictures (really, who would make this stuff up?) for over $600 and then told the photographer that it was a bank error and then produced a letter from the bank taking responsibility for the errors. Classic. The other was agreeing to trade a woman on-line a very expensive Louis Vuitton purse for one of her own (that cost over $1000 and came out of my bank account I later found out). When the woman sent her the purse, our daughter claimed it was a fake and then refused to send her the one she promised in trade. Her skills are absolutely at the highest level which is why we were hoping someone else was involved and perhaps talked her into doing these things. There was no way we thought she had the technical ability to do this stuff. To date, we have found absolutely no evidence indicating anyone else was involved at all. As for my husband and I, we are determine not to let this define how we live. There was enormous stress between us for a very long time, first because he couldn't understand why we were having all the problems and why on earth I could not get them resolved. He offered to help but I kept telling him I was working on it and showing him proof (emails, statements, letters etc. later determined to be forgeries) that I had bankers and high level management people working on everything. Since I had handled all the accounts and bills etc for the entire time we have been together, it made sense that I was the one trying to unravel things. Also, my name was on most everything so we knew they wouldn't even talk to him. Things are better between us now. Once we found out who was responsible, it finally made sense as devastating as it was. He is simply frozen. He can't deal with the mess and I can't deal with much other than the mess. He is supportive of my efforts and says he doesn't know how I do it. But, really, who else? If he can't deal with it and the police couldn't unravel it, my choices were limited. Either get to the bottom of things myself or let it go. Financially, once we got the theft stopped and we filed Chapter 13, at least the bill collectors stopped calling, mailing, and showing up at our door. I went back to work part time and between that and the tax amendment we were able to pay off my brother which was such an emotional burden. I will carry the guilt from that for the rest of my life. Our Chapter 13 attorney is working with the creditors explaining that the debts were not ours but in the meantime the attorney bills have amounted to thousands. As for coping, I sometimes binge on green tea and mindless tv. I would take up drinking but can't afford the alcohol. Same for drugs. lol We are still very blessed in many ways. We have my family, our son, and our retirement income. We are still together and still in good health. We know that there are very stressful times ahead and are trying to prepare. [/QUOTE]
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