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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 628581" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>"...and that is what I am determined to achieve."</p><p></p><p>I like the strength in that way of seeing.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>"I have accepted the fact...."</p><p></p><p>Again, there is strength to be found in seeing things from this point of view. I am going to change my internal dialogue to reflect these new understandings.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Another quotable, strengthening way to see and describe; to feel and find strength.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I like this too, COM. And it is true that we are messy, and ugly, and wonderful by turns. This is humbling, a good tool to employ when I am tempted to ride off on a horse colored judgment.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>"...and that wasn't the first time. I was always setting myself aside for someone else...."</p><p></p><p>I hadn't realized this about myself. Not consciously.</p><p></p><p>"...a crazy combination of arrogance and low self esteem."</p><p></p><p>"...not valuing myself and taking care of myself and learning my own limitations."</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>"...a much less reactive life."</p><p></p><p>I think this is something similar to what Brene Brown calls "riding the edge". (Brene Brown's <em>Daring Greatly.</em>)</p><p></p><p>It is like emptying myself and opening my eyes at the same time. There is nothing much left to judge with when we are empty.</p><p></p><p>When we are clear.</p><p></p><p>It is hard though, to sit with what is, and accept it without dressing it up into something presentable. This all fits in to self respect and to the loss of respect for self and other that I have posted about when I acknowledged the truth of what had happened to my relationship with my son.</p><p></p><p>Maybe not so much respecting, as honoring.</p><p></p><p>It is hard to honor what has happened and yet, it did happen; it is what it is. Maybe what I need to learn is to honor what is. This has something to do with Jeanne's posting about not being sure how she feels, but at the same time, understanding that while her child is alive, nothing about this is finished.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I like this, COM. I don't know though whether I have chosen to see everything as I see it to celebrate what little I had left, or to pretend what I had was acceptable. I had no choice but to accept it. Celebrating what there is to be celebrated, though so much about it is hurtful...maybe we would have changed our situations sooner, had we not pieced the facts together in a way that made it seem okay to continue to try.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Well spoken, Jeanne.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 628581, member: 17461"] "...and that is what I am determined to achieve." I like the strength in that way of seeing. "I have accepted the fact...." Again, there is strength to be found in seeing things from this point of view. I am going to change my internal dialogue to reflect these new understandings. Another quotable, strengthening way to see and describe; to feel and find strength. I like this too, COM. And it is true that we are messy, and ugly, and wonderful by turns. This is humbling, a good tool to employ when I am tempted to ride off on a horse colored judgment. "...and that wasn't the first time. I was always setting myself aside for someone else...." I hadn't realized this about myself. Not consciously. "...a crazy combination of arrogance and low self esteem." "...not valuing myself and taking care of myself and learning my own limitations." "...a much less reactive life." I think this is something similar to what Brene Brown calls "riding the edge". (Brene Brown's [I]Daring Greatly.[/I]) It is like emptying myself and opening my eyes at the same time. There is nothing much left to judge with when we are empty. When we are clear. It is hard though, to sit with what is, and accept it without dressing it up into something presentable. This all fits in to self respect and to the loss of respect for self and other that I have posted about when I acknowledged the truth of what had happened to my relationship with my son. Maybe not so much respecting, as honoring. It is hard to honor what has happened and yet, it did happen; it is what it is. Maybe what I need to learn is to honor what is. This has something to do with Jeanne's posting about not being sure how she feels, but at the same time, understanding that while her child is alive, nothing about this is finished. I like this, COM. I don't know though whether I have chosen to see everything as I see it to celebrate what little I had left, or to pretend what I had was acceptable. I had no choice but to accept it. Celebrating what there is to be celebrated, though so much about it is hurtful...maybe we would have changed our situations sooner, had we not pieced the facts together in a way that made it seem okay to continue to try. Well spoken, Jeanne. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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