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Adult daughter stole entire life savings
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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 629334" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Jeanne, I am so sad to read your posts, your sorrow, overwhelm, determination and devastation fly off of the page........I am so sorry once again to know that this has happened to you. You've lost so much, not just your life savings, your security, your sense of safety and comfort, but you've also lost your daughter........and you've had to face what she chose to do to you ...........I can certainly understand the nightmares, the headaches, the crying and the worrying. </p><p></p><p>I imagine putting all your efforts into doing all the research, the paperwork, dealing with the banks and the police, the attorneys and everyone else you've had to deal with has been a curse but also a bit of blessing to be busy all the time so you don't have to feel. I think that would be a fairly natural way to deal with what's happened to you and your husband. </p><p></p><p>I want to invite you to get yourself support through this...........and to do it now, not when it's finally 'over'. </p><p></p><p>You've been at this for some time, this survival, this coping, this dealing with the facts so you can put it all together for yourself as well as the authorities. I applaud what an earnest and thorough job you've done. However my concern is for your vulnerable, heartbroken, devastated self who is buried underneath all of the doingness, so that you can get the job done and not fall apart. I think when we take the kind of blows you'e sustained, you have to make getting support for YOU the highest priority so you can get through this remarkably, unrelenting, treacherous landscape of horrors. </p><p></p><p>You are more valuable then your life savings, your credit rating, your mortgage, your home, any of your material things and yes, even your daughter. You deserve to be comforted, to have someone hold your hand through this, to have someone or a group of someones, hold your heart and keep it safe, while you march steadfastly through the war zone. We humans are not meant to be isolated, to trudge through life "getting the job done" without a loving family, a village, a best friend, a therapist, a support group, whatever it takes to feel as if we're not alone and we are being held upright by strong arms..........and held tightly when we need to break down and cry..........you deserve that Jeanne, you not only deserve it, you need it, you need it so that while this is happening you can breathe, you can on occasion smile and even laugh, you can notice the sun set or the moon rise.........in the midst of all the heartache and all the losses, life manages to continue moving ahead..............</p><p></p><p>We need that balance point when we are annihilated by circumstances............ to create a balance between the darkness we are experiencing and the ever present light which we can lose sight of. It's very important Jeanne to open yourself up to support, to empathy, to compassion, to help, to others to be there for you during this time. </p><p></p><p>It is so easy for us to be stoic, to be strong, to soldier on through all of it...............but there is absolutely no reason to do that alone............there is always help for us, all we have to do make ourselves available for it. </p><p></p><p>My wish for you Jeanne, is that now, while you are still in the throes of this heartbreak, get yourself some support, just for you, not to help with the case, but to help with your broken heart, to help you put the pieces of your life back together, not from a vantage point of material things, or money or accounts.........but the more important components of taking care of ourselves, of nurturing ourselves so we can replenish what has been lost.........of loving ourselves and being connected to others...........of intimacy and understanding.............of friendship and grace.............. of empathy and beauty. Remember there is more out there then this experience, life is still the same miracle it was before your daughter took the sun out of your life............that sun will shine again..........but in the meantime you will have to grab some of that light and pull it in to you................you do that by getting help, getting support, getting your needs met and nourishing yourself..........now.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 629334, member: 13542"] Jeanne, I am so sad to read your posts, your sorrow, overwhelm, determination and devastation fly off of the page........I am so sorry once again to know that this has happened to you. You've lost so much, not just your life savings, your security, your sense of safety and comfort, but you've also lost your daughter........and you've had to face what she chose to do to you ...........I can certainly understand the nightmares, the headaches, the crying and the worrying. I imagine putting all your efforts into doing all the research, the paperwork, dealing with the banks and the police, the attorneys and everyone else you've had to deal with has been a curse but also a bit of blessing to be busy all the time so you don't have to feel. I think that would be a fairly natural way to deal with what's happened to you and your husband. I want to invite you to get yourself support through this...........and to do it now, not when it's finally 'over'. You've been at this for some time, this survival, this coping, this dealing with the facts so you can put it all together for yourself as well as the authorities. I applaud what an earnest and thorough job you've done. However my concern is for your vulnerable, heartbroken, devastated self who is buried underneath all of the doingness, so that you can get the job done and not fall apart. I think when we take the kind of blows you'e sustained, you have to make getting support for YOU the highest priority so you can get through this remarkably, unrelenting, treacherous landscape of horrors. You are more valuable then your life savings, your credit rating, your mortgage, your home, any of your material things and yes, even your daughter. You deserve to be comforted, to have someone hold your hand through this, to have someone or a group of someones, hold your heart and keep it safe, while you march steadfastly through the war zone. We humans are not meant to be isolated, to trudge through life "getting the job done" without a loving family, a village, a best friend, a therapist, a support group, whatever it takes to feel as if we're not alone and we are being held upright by strong arms..........and held tightly when we need to break down and cry..........you deserve that Jeanne, you not only deserve it, you need it, you need it so that while this is happening you can breathe, you can on occasion smile and even laugh, you can notice the sun set or the moon rise.........in the midst of all the heartache and all the losses, life manages to continue moving ahead.............. We need that balance point when we are annihilated by circumstances............ to create a balance between the darkness we are experiencing and the ever present light which we can lose sight of. It's very important Jeanne to open yourself up to support, to empathy, to compassion, to help, to others to be there for you during this time. It is so easy for us to be stoic, to be strong, to soldier on through all of it...............but there is absolutely no reason to do that alone............there is always help for us, all we have to do make ourselves available for it. My wish for you Jeanne, is that now, while you are still in the throes of this heartbreak, get yourself some support, just for you, not to help with the case, but to help with your broken heart, to help you put the pieces of your life back together, not from a vantage point of material things, or money or accounts.........but the more important components of taking care of ourselves, of nurturing ourselves so we can replenish what has been lost.........of loving ourselves and being connected to others...........of intimacy and understanding.............of friendship and grace.............. of empathy and beauty. Remember there is more out there then this experience, life is still the same miracle it was before your daughter took the sun out of your life............that sun will shine again..........but in the meantime you will have to grab some of that light and pull it in to you................you do that by getting help, getting support, getting your needs met and nourishing yourself..........now. [/QUOTE]
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