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Adult daughter update... I will never get it. Ever.
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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 685647" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Hi SuperG, I don't have a daughter with kids, as you requested, so I'll keep it short:</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>This is very very true. If I can read between the lines of what you are writing, it's the grandkids that are the real issue right now. That is very understandable, but...</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I like what New Leaf writes here. Respecting ourselves, and putting ourselves first (a hard thing for most of us to grasp) comes from a complete mind shift. We have to start thinking and KNOWING that we are 51% and our DCs and our grandkids, even, are 49%. Again, this is a major shift for most of us, but after we fully grasp it, and start to believe it, it can be a positive foundation for everything new that we need to do. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>We only have one life. Our DCs have one life, a separate life from ours. Our grandkids have one life, their own life, not their parent's life or their grandparent's life. We are all separate people, put here with our separate roles, responsibilities and journeys. We can't walk another's journey, another's path. We can only walk our own path. And others have to walk theirs. </p><p></p><p>The sooner we can start grasping onto this very real truth...but a hard truth to swallow, when we love people and are so afraid for them...the better off we are, and the better off they are, because then we can start letting to, letting people have their choices, no matter how nonsensical they may seem to us, and stepping back.</p><p></p><p> I don't know if this helps or not. Food for thought.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 685647, member: 17542"] Hi SuperG, I don't have a daughter with kids, as you requested, so I'll keep it short: This is very very true. If I can read between the lines of what you are writing, it's the grandkids that are the real issue right now. That is very understandable, but... I like what New Leaf writes here. Respecting ourselves, and putting ourselves first (a hard thing for most of us to grasp) comes from a complete mind shift. We have to start thinking and KNOWING that we are 51% and our DCs and our grandkids, even, are 49%. Again, this is a major shift for most of us, but after we fully grasp it, and start to believe it, it can be a positive foundation for everything new that we need to do. We only have one life. Our DCs have one life, a separate life from ours. Our grandkids have one life, their own life, not their parent's life or their grandparent's life. We are all separate people, put here with our separate roles, responsibilities and journeys. We can't walk another's journey, another's path. We can only walk our own path. And others have to walk theirs. The sooner we can start grasping onto this very real truth...but a hard truth to swallow, when we love people and are so afraid for them...the better off we are, and the better off they are, because then we can start letting to, letting people have their choices, no matter how nonsensical they may seem to us, and stepping back. I don't know if this helps or not. Food for thought. [/QUOTE]
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