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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 708279" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Hmmm. I wonder if your dad is also on the spectrum im sure you know its hereditary.</p><p></p><p>At any rate, there is nothing YOU can do. You cant control anyone but yourself...not dad or mom or siblings. Let it go. Waste of time to try to change another person. Your parents allow the siblings to live with them and the siblings wont move out just because you want them to. Maybe encourage the autistic sibs who have trouble working to apply for social security disability and other services. But you cant make them do it.</p><p></p><p>Having said all that that, you do have 100% control over you and what you allow. Why dont you set a boundary and tell your siblings in advance that nobody can move in with you, then stick to it. Nobody is duty bound to house and support all his siblings or even one of them. If you chose to allow them to move in, that is on you. No is a complete sentence and you already have a family. You dont have to repeat your parents mistakes unless you wamt to.</p><p></p><p>At 70 your dad can still live another twenty years.</p><p></p><p>Good luck!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 708279, member: 1550"] Hmmm. I wonder if your dad is also on the spectrum im sure you know its hereditary. At any rate, there is nothing YOU can do. You cant control anyone but yourself...not dad or mom or siblings. Let it go. Waste of time to try to change another person. Your parents allow the siblings to live with them and the siblings wont move out just because you want them to. Maybe encourage the autistic sibs who have trouble working to apply for social security disability and other services. But you cant make them do it. Having said all that that, you do have 100% control over you and what you allow. Why dont you set a boundary and tell your siblings in advance that nobody can move in with you, then stick to it. Nobody is duty bound to house and support all his siblings or even one of them. If you chose to allow them to move in, that is on you. No is a complete sentence and you already have a family. You dont have to repeat your parents mistakes unless you wamt to. At 70 your dad can still live another twenty years. Good luck!! [/QUOTE]
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