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Adult son (22) ruining his life
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<blockquote data-quote="Zardo" data-source="post: 538228" data-attributes="member: 12490"><p>I am so sorry for your heartbreak. In reading your story, I am confident that you have done everything that you can do for him. At this point, helping to pay for rehab and giving your support and love is as much as you can do. He is 22 and he made this mess dispite your multiple efforts to intervene. I think the only real way out is for him to realize he has a problem and to do the work of recovery ande then slowly put the pieces of his life back together. I know that you and your wife must be experiencing great pain and constant worry, but I have learned through my own experience and from reading the experience of others on this site that providing endless "soft landings" only prolongs their poor choices and their anger toward you. I do reccomend that you and your wife see a counselor together that is experienced in helping families of addicts and there are some great books that can help you maintain your resolve. I found "Changing for Good" to be a great guide on how to help someone without enabling them. I know others have more to reccommend. Good luck - be strong - you have done a lot for him.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Zardo, post: 538228, member: 12490"] I am so sorry for your heartbreak. In reading your story, I am confident that you have done everything that you can do for him. At this point, helping to pay for rehab and giving your support and love is as much as you can do. He is 22 and he made this mess dispite your multiple efforts to intervene. I think the only real way out is for him to realize he has a problem and to do the work of recovery ande then slowly put the pieces of his life back together. I know that you and your wife must be experiencing great pain and constant worry, but I have learned through my own experience and from reading the experience of others on this site that providing endless "soft landings" only prolongs their poor choices and their anger toward you. I do reccomend that you and your wife see a counselor together that is experienced in helping families of addicts and there are some great books that can help you maintain your resolve. I found "Changing for Good" to be a great guide on how to help someone without enabling them. I know others have more to reccommend. Good luck - be strong - you have done a lot for him. [/QUOTE]
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