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Adult son back in jail for the nth time
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<blockquote data-quote="detachingmother" data-source="post: 679767" data-attributes="member: 20063"><p>Finally I have <em>some</em> relief. I feel peaceful tonight. Not sure how long it's been, probably 5 or 6 days since I have talked to son. I answered the phone tonight. </p><p></p><p>I feel a sense of peace because he's not having major delusions, paranoia, and otherwise bad manipulative behavior toward me. He didn't ask for money, said he was fine and doesn't need anything, other than maybe $10 in his account thursday to buy cards. Ummm, sorry, not sorry, but no card money coming from me. He will just play poker and buy other things he shouldn't have. I am way ahead of him on that one. He's not, however, being "good".</p><p></p><p>Here's why he's not being "good"....he found a way to buy Seroquel in there by trading his coffee again, which I am not even sure where he got coffee, because last I knew he sold all of his to call his girlfriend and harass her with his paranoia three or so days ago. And I know I didn't buy it, I told him no more for awhile, since he abused the privilege. Jailed people buy and sell and barter like nobody's business.</p><p></p><p>Being who he is, he told me this over a <em>recorded</em> phone call. Yup, that's right!! He knows they record and listen to every phone call. This isn't his first rodeo. Yet, he proudly announced he found a way to medicate himself--illegally.</p><p></p><p>This reminded me of when he called me prior to being arrested to ask me to please tell the "cop" that he wasn't drunk driving, he was only driving on his Risperdal, which he actually quit taking months ago--as if that would be perfectly acceptable<img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/devilish.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":devilish:" title="devilish :devilish:" data-shortname=":devilish:" />. So while he isn't in acute/severe mode, he's still not thinking right. He is basically telling the jailers, he's illegally buying non- prescribed to him drugs. UGHHH. Almost laughable, and also like the time he called the state police on himself...if it weren't so sad.</p><p></p><p>I'm torn on him buying the Seroquel. I did tell him that wasn't going to be acceptable and that now that he said that on a recorded call, he would probably face consequences. He said, no way, they don't mind buying and selling Seroquel. HUH? That can't be right. Right? I thought.... But, in my head I was thinking, well, these people will not get him his medications, well, so he found a way to get his medications himself. Part of me feels good because his doctor has prescribed this before and it DOES work to keep his paranoia and delusions away.</p><p></p><p>He talked to the psychiatrist three weeks ago and still no medications. The records don't lie, he needs it. My psychotherapist friend who was going to call the jail psychiatrist, could not reach him today, because he had the day off...said tomorrow he will call him again. Praying here.</p><p></p><p>I could also visualize that he was driving the 9 other guys in his 20 x 20 foot cell crazy, so someone was more than happy to sell him his Seroquel to quiet him up. Because when he's in a manic state which is almost always, with paranoia and delusions, he's insufferable. The cells have been on 24 hour lock down, only get out for recreation twice a month. If I were in a cell with him, I might very well sell him Seroquel too, but now he's probably going to be in more trouble.</p><p></p><p>Tonight though, I am at peace, not because Son's being a law-abiding, productive citizen, but because he's somewhat at peace. If that makes sense.</p><p></p><p>And, well, I half-way accepted the job I was offered. I go tomorrow to meet everyone, and to hang around for the day to see if it will be a good fit. One more thing to keep myself busy, and to keep myself happy.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="detachingmother, post: 679767, member: 20063"] Finally I have [I]some[/I] relief. I feel peaceful tonight. Not sure how long it's been, probably 5 or 6 days since I have talked to son. I answered the phone tonight. I feel a sense of peace because he's not having major delusions, paranoia, and otherwise bad manipulative behavior toward me. He didn't ask for money, said he was fine and doesn't need anything, other than maybe $10 in his account thursday to buy cards. Ummm, sorry, not sorry, but no card money coming from me. He will just play poker and buy other things he shouldn't have. I am way ahead of him on that one. He's not, however, being "good". Here's why he's not being "good"....he found a way to buy Seroquel in there by trading his coffee again, which I am not even sure where he got coffee, because last I knew he sold all of his to call his girlfriend and harass her with his paranoia three or so days ago. And I know I didn't buy it, I told him no more for awhile, since he abused the privilege. Jailed people buy and sell and barter like nobody's business. Being who he is, he told me this over a [I]recorded[/I] phone call. Yup, that's right!! He knows they record and listen to every phone call. This isn't his first rodeo. Yet, he proudly announced he found a way to medicate himself--illegally. This reminded me of when he called me prior to being arrested to ask me to please tell the "cop" that he wasn't drunk driving, he was only driving on his Risperdal, which he actually quit taking months ago--as if that would be perfectly acceptable:devilish:. So while he isn't in acute/severe mode, he's still not thinking right. He is basically telling the jailers, he's illegally buying non- prescribed to him drugs. UGHHH. Almost laughable, and also like the time he called the state police on himself...if it weren't so sad. I'm torn on him buying the Seroquel. I did tell him that wasn't going to be acceptable and that now that he said that on a recorded call, he would probably face consequences. He said, no way, they don't mind buying and selling Seroquel. HUH? That can't be right. Right? I thought.... But, in my head I was thinking, well, these people will not get him his medications, well, so he found a way to get his medications himself. Part of me feels good because his doctor has prescribed this before and it DOES work to keep his paranoia and delusions away. He talked to the psychiatrist three weeks ago and still no medications. The records don't lie, he needs it. My psychotherapist friend who was going to call the jail psychiatrist, could not reach him today, because he had the day off...said tomorrow he will call him again. Praying here. I could also visualize that he was driving the 9 other guys in his 20 x 20 foot cell crazy, so someone was more than happy to sell him his Seroquel to quiet him up. Because when he's in a manic state which is almost always, with paranoia and delusions, he's insufferable. The cells have been on 24 hour lock down, only get out for recreation twice a month. If I were in a cell with him, I might very well sell him Seroquel too, but now he's probably going to be in more trouble. Tonight though, I am at peace, not because Son's being a law-abiding, productive citizen, but because he's somewhat at peace. If that makes sense. And, well, I half-way accepted the job I was offered. I go tomorrow to meet everyone, and to hang around for the day to see if it will be a good fit. One more thing to keep myself busy, and to keep myself happy. [/QUOTE]
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