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Adult son back in jail for the nth time
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<blockquote data-quote="Sister's Keeper" data-source="post: 680069" data-attributes="member: 20051"><p>Detaching,</p><p></p><p>This is where we are. Sis with her, I think, 9th shoplifting arrest. Parole/probation violation. She was offered an 18 month inpatient rehab with the remaining 5 yrs IOP treatment with vocational rehab and sober living, or a 5yr sentence in state prison. </p><p></p><p>Guess what she chose? Because she "isn't ready to stop getting high yet." While I raise her kids. It's what set me off to come here.</p><p></p><p>Here are a few things. I don't know where you live, but, my sister will never do 5 years. She is a non violent offender, and as I mentioned, a model prisoner. She will be out in a year and and half. She has that all figured out. With "good time" and with working a prison job. No parole. Free and clear to use again. </p><p></p><p>The only advantage is that the state prison, at least here, offers more in terms of substance abuse treatment, at least they have groups, and her motivation to attend them is time off her sentence. Maybe something will sink in. (I'm not holding my breath) </p><p></p><p>The other advantage is that you will be less beholden, financially. They have way more opportunity to work a prison job and earn their own commissary and phone money.</p><p></p><p>I know that you have a grandbaby on the way. I tell my sister that any money that I would have given her goes towards her kids. In lieu of the child support that I will never see. That she chose this life. She chooses to be in jail, they did not choose it and shouldn't do without because of her choices.</p><p></p><p>I know that you are undecided on your involvement in your grandbaby's life, but you can tell him that while he is in jail/prison that any money that would have gone towards him will go towards making sure his child doesn't do without until he can provide for his own child.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Sister's Keeper, post: 680069, member: 20051"] Detaching, This is where we are. Sis with her, I think, 9th shoplifting arrest. Parole/probation violation. She was offered an 18 month inpatient rehab with the remaining 5 yrs IOP treatment with vocational rehab and sober living, or a 5yr sentence in state prison. Guess what she chose? Because she "isn't ready to stop getting high yet." While I raise her kids. It's what set me off to come here. Here are a few things. I don't know where you live, but, my sister will never do 5 years. She is a non violent offender, and as I mentioned, a model prisoner. She will be out in a year and and half. She has that all figured out. With "good time" and with working a prison job. No parole. Free and clear to use again. The only advantage is that the state prison, at least here, offers more in terms of substance abuse treatment, at least they have groups, and her motivation to attend them is time off her sentence. Maybe something will sink in. (I'm not holding my breath) The other advantage is that you will be less beholden, financially. They have way more opportunity to work a prison job and earn their own commissary and phone money. I know that you have a grandbaby on the way. I tell my sister that any money that I would have given her goes towards her kids. In lieu of the child support that I will never see. That she chose this life. She chooses to be in jail, they did not choose it and shouldn't do without because of her choices. I know that you are undecided on your involvement in your grandbaby's life, but you can tell him that while he is in jail/prison that any money that would have gone towards him will go towards making sure his child doesn't do without until he can provide for his own child. [/QUOTE]
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