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Adult son hospitalized for threatening suicide
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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 632752" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>JKF this is the writing-down of a good boundary. You decide what you will do, you write it down, and you carry it out. Then you wait and see and let some time go by, and go from there. </p><p></p><p>I believe if we can think and act methodically, like this indicates, we are better off. We are clearer-headed, and we can go forward without confusion.</p><p></p><p>Now, someone may throw a curve ball into that plan, and if they do, JKF, you can say this: Well, that is new information. I'll think about that and let you know.</p><p></p><p>Hang on to what you know and have learned, JKF.</p><p></p><p>I so understand your frustration about what you said about letting hope creep back in. We do that, we get hopeful, and then those hopes are dashed. </p><p></p><p>But what is the alternative, JKF? I believe that is what it means to be fully human. You are showing your innate and deep love and humanity. </p><p></p><p>Yesterday, in an Al-anon meeting, there was this quote from one of the Al-anon books that we all reflected on: "There are times when I have to hurt through a situation, and when this happens, the choice is not whether to hurt or not to hurt, but what to do while I am hurting." </p><p></p><p>There is a lot to unpack there. It hurts to hope and then to have our hopes dashed. But it is what we do while this happens and is happening, that will make the difference in our ability to grow our acceptance of the situation over time.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 632752, member: 17542"] JKF this is the writing-down of a good boundary. You decide what you will do, you write it down, and you carry it out. Then you wait and see and let some time go by, and go from there. I believe if we can think and act methodically, like this indicates, we are better off. We are clearer-headed, and we can go forward without confusion. Now, someone may throw a curve ball into that plan, and if they do, JKF, you can say this: Well, that is new information. I'll think about that and let you know. Hang on to what you know and have learned, JKF. I so understand your frustration about what you said about letting hope creep back in. We do that, we get hopeful, and then those hopes are dashed. But what is the alternative, JKF? I believe that is what it means to be fully human. You are showing your innate and deep love and humanity. Yesterday, in an Al-anon meeting, there was this quote from one of the Al-anon books that we all reflected on: "There are times when I have to hurt through a situation, and when this happens, the choice is not whether to hurt or not to hurt, but what to do while I am hurting." There is a lot to unpack there. It hurts to hope and then to have our hopes dashed. But it is what we do while this happens and is happening, that will make the difference in our ability to grow our acceptance of the situation over time. [/QUOTE]
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