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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 764123" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>Hi AS123,</p><p>I had to reread this thread, it’s been awhile since you have been here. You have been deep in the trenches trying to help your son. I’m so sorry that his behavior escalated and he was unable to follow house rules. I’m sorry for your need to revisit, but glad that you reached out to us. </p><p></p><p>This is not an easy thing at all. You did the right thing in drawing a line for his threats and disrespect. It still hurts, I know.</p><p></p><p>That is doubly hard. Anxiety and addiction. That just creates this awful cycle. I’m sure my two have dual diagnosis as well, but we are way beyond knowing which came first, due to their extended drug use.</p><p></p><p>I walked on eggshells with my two during the early years. Unpredictable mood swings and sneaking around. Our house turned into a place I dreaded to be, not knowing what the next drama would be. It still hurt like the dickens when I said enough and closed the revolving door. I was shell shocked. That’s when I found this site, and the kind folks here helped me through so much.</p><p></p><p>He will have less money to fund his addiction, having to find and pay for his own place, or room with others. While he is ramping up his use now, he will soon find out that with added responsibility of supporting himself, he will have to make better choices. I hope he figures it out and forges a different path.</p><p></p><p>I do not know too much about this method. I have gone back and forth regarding connection with my two waywards, reasoning that if I stop trying, who do they have on the other side of this? But, at the same time, at what cost to my own peace of mind and health? I have come to a crossroads where I monitor my own mental well being as far as contact with my two. It is difficult to have contact and then nothing for months. I still need to adjust to the seesawing emotions of that. I don't think I would have them live with me. That has proven to spiral into the rabbit hole quite rapidly.</p><p></p><p>It is good that you hold true to those boundaries. Your son is young, I hope that he will realize what lies ahead if he continues as is, and gets the help he needs. </p><p></p><p>I miss my two as well AS123. I do hope that this experience will help your son wake up and make better choices. Please take very good care of yourself. This is a tough time, I know. Prayer helps so much as well as being able to talk to someone who understands. Writing here helped me, and still does. Prayers that your son will find his light and potential and that you and your family will find peace during this difficult time.</p><p>(((Hugs)))</p><p>New Leaf</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 764123, member: 19522"] Hi AS123, I had to reread this thread, it’s been awhile since you have been here. You have been deep in the trenches trying to help your son. I’m so sorry that his behavior escalated and he was unable to follow house rules. I’m sorry for your need to revisit, but glad that you reached out to us. This is not an easy thing at all. You did the right thing in drawing a line for his threats and disrespect. It still hurts, I know. That is doubly hard. Anxiety and addiction. That just creates this awful cycle. I’m sure my two have dual diagnosis as well, but we are way beyond knowing which came first, due to their extended drug use. I walked on eggshells with my two during the early years. Unpredictable mood swings and sneaking around. Our house turned into a place I dreaded to be, not knowing what the next drama would be. It still hurt like the dickens when I said enough and closed the revolving door. I was shell shocked. That’s when I found this site, and the kind folks here helped me through so much. He will have less money to fund his addiction, having to find and pay for his own place, or room with others. While he is ramping up his use now, he will soon find out that with added responsibility of supporting himself, he will have to make better choices. I hope he figures it out and forges a different path. I do not know too much about this method. I have gone back and forth regarding connection with my two waywards, reasoning that if I stop trying, who do they have on the other side of this? But, at the same time, at what cost to my own peace of mind and health? I have come to a crossroads where I monitor my own mental well being as far as contact with my two. It is difficult to have contact and then nothing for months. I still need to adjust to the seesawing emotions of that. I don't think I would have them live with me. That has proven to spiral into the rabbit hole quite rapidly. It is good that you hold true to those boundaries. Your son is young, I hope that he will realize what lies ahead if he continues as is, and gets the help he needs. I miss my two as well AS123. I do hope that this experience will help your son wake up and make better choices. Please take very good care of yourself. This is a tough time, I know. Prayer helps so much as well as being able to talk to someone who understands. Writing here helped me, and still does. Prayers that your son will find his light and potential and that you and your family will find peace during this difficult time. (((Hugs))) New Leaf [/QUOTE]
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