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<blockquote data-quote="mstang67chic" data-source="post: 287697" data-attributes="member: 2459"><p>I'm so sorry you are having to deal with this. I can understand where your husband is coming from too. It's HIS mother and there's just so much emotion involved that he can't see the logic. My husband is the same way. His mother is in not so great physical health (can't clean properly and her apartment is not in the best of shape) and her mental health is questionable on good days even with her medications. I think she needs to be in an assisted living facility and even though husband agrees....the emotional part of it for him keeps getting in the way. In our situation, it wouldn't be a problem for me or one of my sister in law's to go clean for mother in law but none of us will do it while she's there. She would either get in the way or just be ugly depending on which one of us was there. On the flip side though, we can't do it when she's gone because she's NEVER gone. The only time she leaves her apartment is to go to the doctor and that only happens every couple of months. Plus the appointments never last long enough for us to do any good. </p><p></p><p>You really aren't THAT far away and I would offer to come help you but it's such a personal and emotional time that I know it would just put more pressure on you. </p><p></p><p>Here's hoping things go as smoothly as possible during the next couple of weeks, husband eases up (or gets to the doctor) and you get through with the minium of stress. Hugs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mstang67chic, post: 287697, member: 2459"] I'm so sorry you are having to deal with this. I can understand where your husband is coming from too. It's HIS mother and there's just so much emotion involved that he can't see the logic. My husband is the same way. His mother is in not so great physical health (can't clean properly and her apartment is not in the best of shape) and her mental health is questionable on good days even with her medications. I think she needs to be in an assisted living facility and even though husband agrees....the emotional part of it for him keeps getting in the way. In our situation, it wouldn't be a problem for me or one of my sister in law's to go clean for mother in law but none of us will do it while she's there. She would either get in the way or just be ugly depending on which one of us was there. On the flip side though, we can't do it when she's gone because she's NEVER gone. The only time she leaves her apartment is to go to the doctor and that only happens every couple of months. Plus the appointments never last long enough for us to do any good. You really aren't THAT far away and I would offer to come help you but it's such a personal and emotional time that I know it would just put more pressure on you. Here's hoping things go as smoothly as possible during the next couple of weeks, husband eases up (or gets to the doctor) and you get through with the minium of stress. Hugs. [/QUOTE]
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