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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 355848" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I unfortunately adopted a boy who molested and more my two younger kids. I have a few questions to ask that will help.</p><p></p><p>1/Is he your biological son?</p><p></p><p>2/Was he ever sexually molested himself? Many times kids act out when they have been abused. Is there somebody who may have hurt him? The most common reason for kids to sexually act out is because it happened to them and they are repeating what happened. </p><p></p><p>3/Does he have any other unusual behaviors? Any diagnoses? </p><p></p><p>4/What are your family dynamics? Does Dad get visitiation? If not, was Dad abusive? Any other "funny" relatives.</p><p></p><p>My adopted son came to us at 11 and I have found that often (not always) when a child complains of abuse once, it has usually happened more than once. The kids, however, even as young as three are often afraid to tell us because the abuser makes threats, such as "I'll kill you all if you tell." I do not know if this is your situation. I'm just telling you what I learned from social services and when my two other children were in therapy. Also, unfortunately, kids always say "I just did it once." It may or may not be true.</p><p></p><p>I think you need to put an alarm on your son's door so that if he leaves his room at night you know, and can monitor him so that he goes only to the bathroom and not to his sister's room. This isn't something to take chances with. This was not two kids playing doctor. He did this without your daughter's consent and I'd take it very seriously. I'm not sure it's common with kids that far apart in age and the fact that he did it against her will. </p><p></p><p>I'm sorry you are going through this. I do know how it is. I wish I didn't. in my opinion he needs treatment right away if he isn't getting any. And it should focus on this issue.</p><p></p><p>Welcome to the board.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 355848, member: 1550"] I unfortunately adopted a boy who molested and more my two younger kids. I have a few questions to ask that will help. 1/Is he your biological son? 2/Was he ever sexually molested himself? Many times kids act out when they have been abused. Is there somebody who may have hurt him? The most common reason for kids to sexually act out is because it happened to them and they are repeating what happened. 3/Does he have any other unusual behaviors? Any diagnoses? 4/What are your family dynamics? Does Dad get visitiation? If not, was Dad abusive? Any other "funny" relatives. My adopted son came to us at 11 and I have found that often (not always) when a child complains of abuse once, it has usually happened more than once. The kids, however, even as young as three are often afraid to tell us because the abuser makes threats, such as "I'll kill you all if you tell." I do not know if this is your situation. I'm just telling you what I learned from social services and when my two other children were in therapy. Also, unfortunately, kids always say "I just did it once." It may or may not be true. I think you need to put an alarm on your son's door so that if he leaves his room at night you know, and can monitor him so that he goes only to the bathroom and not to his sister's room. This isn't something to take chances with. This was not two kids playing doctor. He did this without your daughter's consent and I'd take it very seriously. I'm not sure it's common with kids that far apart in age and the fact that he did it against her will. I'm sorry you are going through this. I do know how it is. I wish I didn't. in my opinion he needs treatment right away if he isn't getting any. And it should focus on this issue. Welcome to the board. [/QUOTE]
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