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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 355890" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>The last poster brought up something important. First off, make sure you find somebody who understands sexual molestation, even if it turns out it was just one time. Secondly, my daughter doesn't remember the abuse that happened to her. She blocked it out. This is common. She is in counseling in case it suddenly overloads...she has a caring person she can and has talked to about everything and anything. I don't think my son remembers much either. Kids block out any sort of sexual contact, but that doesn't mean it didn't happen. That's why the victim often can not give a straight story...they kind of remember and they kind of don't. We took both kids to a pediatrician who does sexual abuse first...to see if the kids were hurt in any way. My daughter and son both had suffered some "more" than just molestation and we were shattered and shocked too. It's never easy.</p><p></p><p>Make sure you focus on your daughter as much as your son. Even while the sexual stuff was going on, my daughter (who was about 4 at the time) acted fine. She either didn't remember after the times it happened or was just acting fine on auto-pilot. Although I don't think your panicking does any good, and agree that this is the time to keep a level head, you also need to be open-minded for any stories that may come out. Seuxal curiosity does not mean a boy so much older than his baby sister acts out on her. At least, this is what we were told by both the experts and CPS. If it makes you feel better, both my daughter and son are very well adjusted, I think because they got a lot of professional, specialized therapy early on. The boy who did it...the 11 year old...I don't know what happened to him. He was taken from the home after that and we didn't really want to know what was going on with him after that. But he had always acted like the perfect child to our faces. </p><p></p><p>With your son's social deficits, I'm wondering if he is on the autism spectrum. I can see a kid with Aspergers maybe not understanding that this is very inappropriate. Has he ever been evaluated? (((Hugs))) Been there/done that/have the shirt.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 355890, member: 1550"] The last poster brought up something important. First off, make sure you find somebody who understands sexual molestation, even if it turns out it was just one time. Secondly, my daughter doesn't remember the abuse that happened to her. She blocked it out. This is common. She is in counseling in case it suddenly overloads...she has a caring person she can and has talked to about everything and anything. I don't think my son remembers much either. Kids block out any sort of sexual contact, but that doesn't mean it didn't happen. That's why the victim often can not give a straight story...they kind of remember and they kind of don't. We took both kids to a pediatrician who does sexual abuse first...to see if the kids were hurt in any way. My daughter and son both had suffered some "more" than just molestation and we were shattered and shocked too. It's never easy. Make sure you focus on your daughter as much as your son. Even while the sexual stuff was going on, my daughter (who was about 4 at the time) acted fine. She either didn't remember after the times it happened or was just acting fine on auto-pilot. Although I don't think your panicking does any good, and agree that this is the time to keep a level head, you also need to be open-minded for any stories that may come out. Seuxal curiosity does not mean a boy so much older than his baby sister acts out on her. At least, this is what we were told by both the experts and CPS. If it makes you feel better, both my daughter and son are very well adjusted, I think because they got a lot of professional, specialized therapy early on. The boy who did it...the 11 year old...I don't know what happened to him. He was taken from the home after that and we didn't really want to know what was going on with him after that. But he had always acted like the perfect child to our faces. With your son's social deficits, I'm wondering if he is on the autism spectrum. I can see a kid with Aspergers maybe not understanding that this is very inappropriate. Has he ever been evaluated? (((Hugs))) Been there/done that/have the shirt. [/QUOTE]
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