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<blockquote data-quote="Fran" data-source="post: 356051" data-attributes="member: 3"><p>You are in such a difficult situation. Your emotions are all over the place and understandably so. You are shocked, outraged, anger, embarrassment and terrified. </p><p>In addition, not only do you have to deal with the victim, you still love and need to parent the perpetrator. Regardless of why he did this, he is still an 8 yr old child who needs to be loved, protected and taught. He did the wrong thing and did not respect the boundaries of another more vulnerable person but it does not mean he is a throw away. On the other hand, you can not dismiss his choice of behavior easily. </p><p></p><p>From the your daughters side, she needs you to protect her and love her. She will probably forget about it for a while but she will remember when she gets into puberty. These things do not go away, unfortunately. The concerns for her well being need to be a priority. </p><p></p><p>At this point, not enough is known about how long this has been happening. </p><p>Once you absorb this information and process it(getting past the hurricane of emotions) you can gain a little more balanced insight and plan for your family. He is not a devil and he is not an angel. He is an 8yr old flawed human. </p><p>Do your research- talk openly with experts. Get second and third opinions and do the best you can to love and protect both children from the fallout of an unnatural relationship between siblings. </p><p></p><p>My heart goes out to you. It is not a comfortable place to be.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Fran, post: 356051, member: 3"] You are in such a difficult situation. Your emotions are all over the place and understandably so. You are shocked, outraged, anger, embarrassment and terrified. In addition, not only do you have to deal with the victim, you still love and need to parent the perpetrator. Regardless of why he did this, he is still an 8 yr old child who needs to be loved, protected and taught. He did the wrong thing and did not respect the boundaries of another more vulnerable person but it does not mean he is a throw away. On the other hand, you can not dismiss his choice of behavior easily. From the your daughters side, she needs you to protect her and love her. She will probably forget about it for a while but she will remember when she gets into puberty. These things do not go away, unfortunately. The concerns for her well being need to be a priority. At this point, not enough is known about how long this has been happening. Once you absorb this information and process it(getting past the hurricane of emotions) you can gain a little more balanced insight and plan for your family. He is not a devil and he is not an angel. He is an 8yr old flawed human. Do your research- talk openly with experts. Get second and third opinions and do the best you can to love and protect both children from the fallout of an unnatural relationship between siblings. My heart goes out to you. It is not a comfortable place to be. [/QUOTE]
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