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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 707965" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>There is no one size fits all answer when it comes to whether or not we should help our kids with money. When I was a single mother my parents helped me out. Many years later I talked to my parents and told them I wanted to pay them back since I was in a position to do so. My dad told me that since I always showed how hard I was trying that there was no need. As a single mother, I never got any child support. I worked 2 jobs until I was able to land an office job in a good company. I never went to college but managed to work my way up and acquired marketable skills along the way. </p><p>When it came to my son some of the money we spent was on therapy that was ordered by the court. When my son started getting into trouble to the point police were involved we were at the mercy of family services and the family court system. We struggled to pay the $800 a month for counseling and therapy which lasted 2 years. Not to mention that many of the sessions we had to attend I would have to leave to work.</p><p>The other times we have helped our son was based on my parents helping me. The difference was that I really did try and worked hard to put my life together where my son did not. There were times when my son gave the appearance that he was trying but time would always reveal his true colors. I had hoped each time we would help him that "he'll get it this time". </p><p>I do not regret any of the money we spent or the struggles we went through scraping the money together. I know that I did all I could to try and help my son. It was hard to accept that my son would not put forth the same effort I did when my parents helped me. The time came for me when I knew it was time to close the purse.</p><p></p><p>We each can only do what we are comfortable with and for however long it takes.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 707965, member: 18516"] There is no one size fits all answer when it comes to whether or not we should help our kids with money. When I was a single mother my parents helped me out. Many years later I talked to my parents and told them I wanted to pay them back since I was in a position to do so. My dad told me that since I always showed how hard I was trying that there was no need. As a single mother, I never got any child support. I worked 2 jobs until I was able to land an office job in a good company. I never went to college but managed to work my way up and acquired marketable skills along the way. When it came to my son some of the money we spent was on therapy that was ordered by the court. When my son started getting into trouble to the point police were involved we were at the mercy of family services and the family court system. We struggled to pay the $800 a month for counseling and therapy which lasted 2 years. Not to mention that many of the sessions we had to attend I would have to leave to work. The other times we have helped our son was based on my parents helping me. The difference was that I really did try and worked hard to put my life together where my son did not. There were times when my son gave the appearance that he was trying but time would always reveal his true colors. I had hoped each time we would help him that "he'll get it this time". I do not regret any of the money we spent or the struggles we went through scraping the money together. I know that I did all I could to try and help my son. It was hard to accept that my son would not put forth the same effort I did when my parents helped me. The time came for me when I knew it was time to close the purse. We each can only do what we are comfortable with and for however long it takes. [/QUOTE]
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