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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 593395" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I agree. You should move out or have her do it. Not only is he a risk to your kids, but I doubt very much that SHE wants him to run away forever. That isn't how mothers feel about thirteen year old kids, even if they are out of control. My guess is that is YOUR desire and he is probably very mentally ill and needs help. I wouldn't call him a brat unless I knew that there was nothing wrong with him. If he has been moved around a lot and your girlfriend has had a lot of boyfriends and this kid has been treated like a ping pong ball he could have attachment disorder, which is caused by the parent who isn't keeping him in a stable environment. You do not have a good attitude about him, and I understand, believe me, but in my opinion then you two should not be together as he is a perm. part of her life.</p><p></p><p>It sounds like your custody issues are still a battle...maybe both of you need to rethink if this is a good dynamic for a serious relationship. Sounds like there are still a lot of problems going on on both sides. Maybe someday...but this child will be with her for many, many years and your custody battle will be ongoing (my son is involved in one). I think you need to put your own kids first. Somebody "needing" somebody else is NOT a good dynamic for a healthy relationship. You can not be her White Knight at such a high cost.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 593395, member: 1550"] I agree. You should move out or have her do it. Not only is he a risk to your kids, but I doubt very much that SHE wants him to run away forever. That isn't how mothers feel about thirteen year old kids, even if they are out of control. My guess is that is YOUR desire and he is probably very mentally ill and needs help. I wouldn't call him a brat unless I knew that there was nothing wrong with him. If he has been moved around a lot and your girlfriend has had a lot of boyfriends and this kid has been treated like a ping pong ball he could have attachment disorder, which is caused by the parent who isn't keeping him in a stable environment. You do not have a good attitude about him, and I understand, believe me, but in my opinion then you two should not be together as he is a perm. part of her life. It sounds like your custody issues are still a battle...maybe both of you need to rethink if this is a good dynamic for a serious relationship. Sounds like there are still a lot of problems going on on both sides. Maybe someday...but this child will be with her for many, many years and your custody battle will be ongoing (my son is involved in one). I think you need to put your own kids first. Somebody "needing" somebody else is NOT a good dynamic for a healthy relationship. You can not be her White Knight at such a high cost. [/QUOTE]
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