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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 138386" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>You little hijacker you - lol Gosh I'm still getting a chuckle out of nativity off-side kick to the curb. (Sorry it's at your expense - I can just picture you so well in my mind - and I picture me sitting you your couch waiting to play scrabble with you in between turns you are reclaiming Bethlehem) I so wish we were closer. Opposite ends of the world nearly - stinks. </p><p></p><p>Your insight into situations and no-nonsense attitude are what I was raised with. My Mom cut us NO slack. If she said it - it was done. <span style="font-size: 9px">(Not to be confused with the King and I scene where Yule Brenner as the King stands and says So it is written - let it be done) but similar nonetheless. (author also notes her Mother does not and never did resemble Yule Brenner - and he makes a lousy cowboy</span>) </p><p></p><p>Witz - I often wonder if there will be a time in my near future when I sit and think "YOU child are better off without me." I have to believe that eventually Dude will find a level of maturity that we can converse upon, but I don't see it in my near future. As our lives age - and our children age - we continually rethink our values. Years ago if someone had told me that I would be a different type of person due to the GFGisms - and I also came so close to sacrificing my marriage before it is a marriage - I would have said - "Well if he doesn't like it there is the door." and now? Now I find myself thinking about how old I am, how if I do make it to 80 I'm over 1/2 as old as I'll ever be and what and who do I want in and out of my life?? </p><p></p><p>I want DF in my life. I want Dude in my life - but he's going in different directions and I guess at some point I changed and became not selfish but self preserving. I want someone to help me up the stairs when I'm tired. DF does that - difficult child does not. I want someone who cooks my dinner and loves my dogs. I want someone MY age to share things with me. Maybe I can look forward to a grandchild someday in the future? Maybe THAT will be a point Dude and I can share something. In the mean time - our paths have split and while I don't intend on making them split further - I never know what Dude will do. I just know what I'm doing now - IS NOT SELFISH. I need to move forward in my own home, with my own things, and my own life - almost like being a teenager myself again. Except this time it's not my parents that I don't need mucking up my world - it's my own teen. </p><p></p><p>As far as coming to my house with an unannounced friend? Once. The reception was not one of happiness- And we ordered 2 pizzas - went out in the pool and when we came back in - the ENTIRE 2 pizzas were gone - I mean HUGE PIZZA HUT MEAT LOVERS - GONE - and Dudes friend stood there trying to blame the dog? Not. I locked all the doors on going out - and I know for a fact due to wet carpet he tried all the doors. FOR WHAT? To steal - according to Dude -he's just nosy. Well go be nosy somewhere else. Here it will get you prosecuted. Oh and an update on little mr. nosy? (He is currently in jail at 17 - waiting to do 30 to life for possession with-intent and a bunch of other charges - he's the brother to the darling that got Dude to be the look out on the B&E felony charge) Sounds like a nice family. No father absentee mother and grandma goes to bed at 5:30PM) there are 7 kids from 10-18. </p><p></p><p>The one time I did come in the house and found kids in MY BED? I hit the roof (so I comp you on that) I made them get up, get out - and take the sheets and spread with them. I'm a weirdo about that in my own home. I have a hard time in hotels too. So once I freaked - it was established = you don't live here - you don't lay there (points to my bed) </p><p></p><p>As far as the birthday - I think I'd call L's boss. I think I'd pick a restaurant you liked and let him bring her, and you bring husband. Then i would get on MY cell phone and talk through dinner, and have husband wear headphones or bring a small TV to watch a ball game. He could keep it under the table on his lap. I would hand her MY gift certificate to that spa you want to go to with her - and tell her that the Shuffle didn't work out - you knew she wouldn't like it so why bother????? Then tell her if she really wants it she can have it -but (shrug) whatever. have the waiter bring a cake - and dont' ignore a call on your phone if it comes mid HAPPY BIRTHDAY DEAR LLL (ring) hello????? HELLO? Then i'd get up, tell her that you will pay the bill - that should be a present too - and skip out of there like you were kids. Swear I would.</p><p></p><p>But see you are nice - I am not so nice. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/tongue.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":tongue:" title="tongue :tongue:" data-shortname=":tongue:" /></p><p></p><p>And as far as M. - Yeah - you're in a good place mentally. I don't know how other than he has hurt you for so long that you just got there or you put yourself there - either way I am so proud of husband I actually gasped out loud when I read what he told him about being a big boy - BRAVO man. BRAVO!!!!! </p><p></p><p>You never did say what you brought me back - I wrote you I wanted something pretty! lol </p><p></p><p>You are an incredible woman, and I swear you make me laugh so hard I have to cover my mouth at work and look like the cat that just ate the bird. WHo me? Laughing? In here? HERE? In my office? no....squeeky patent leather shoe. </p><p></p><p>Hugs</p><p>Star</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 138386, member: 4964"] You little hijacker you - lol Gosh I'm still getting a chuckle out of nativity off-side kick to the curb. (Sorry it's at your expense - I can just picture you so well in my mind - and I picture me sitting you your couch waiting to play scrabble with you in between turns you are reclaiming Bethlehem) I so wish we were closer. Opposite ends of the world nearly - stinks. Your insight into situations and no-nonsense attitude are what I was raised with. My Mom cut us NO slack. If she said it - it was done. [SIZE=1](Not to be confused with the King and I scene where Yule Brenner as the King stands and says So it is written - let it be done) but similar nonetheless. (author also notes her Mother does not and never did resemble Yule Brenner - and he makes a lousy cowboy[/SIZE]) Witz - I often wonder if there will be a time in my near future when I sit and think "YOU child are better off without me." I have to believe that eventually Dude will find a level of maturity that we can converse upon, but I don't see it in my near future. As our lives age - and our children age - we continually rethink our values. Years ago if someone had told me that I would be a different type of person due to the GFGisms - and I also came so close to sacrificing my marriage before it is a marriage - I would have said - "Well if he doesn't like it there is the door." and now? Now I find myself thinking about how old I am, how if I do make it to 80 I'm over 1/2 as old as I'll ever be and what and who do I want in and out of my life?? I want DF in my life. I want Dude in my life - but he's going in different directions and I guess at some point I changed and became not selfish but self preserving. I want someone to help me up the stairs when I'm tired. DF does that - difficult child does not. I want someone who cooks my dinner and loves my dogs. I want someone MY age to share things with me. Maybe I can look forward to a grandchild someday in the future? Maybe THAT will be a point Dude and I can share something. In the mean time - our paths have split and while I don't intend on making them split further - I never know what Dude will do. I just know what I'm doing now - IS NOT SELFISH. I need to move forward in my own home, with my own things, and my own life - almost like being a teenager myself again. Except this time it's not my parents that I don't need mucking up my world - it's my own teen. As far as coming to my house with an unannounced friend? Once. The reception was not one of happiness- And we ordered 2 pizzas - went out in the pool and when we came back in - the ENTIRE 2 pizzas were gone - I mean HUGE PIZZA HUT MEAT LOVERS - GONE - and Dudes friend stood there trying to blame the dog? Not. I locked all the doors on going out - and I know for a fact due to wet carpet he tried all the doors. FOR WHAT? To steal - according to Dude -he's just nosy. Well go be nosy somewhere else. Here it will get you prosecuted. Oh and an update on little mr. nosy? (He is currently in jail at 17 - waiting to do 30 to life for possession with-intent and a bunch of other charges - he's the brother to the darling that got Dude to be the look out on the B&E felony charge) Sounds like a nice family. No father absentee mother and grandma goes to bed at 5:30PM) there are 7 kids from 10-18. The one time I did come in the house and found kids in MY BED? I hit the roof (so I comp you on that) I made them get up, get out - and take the sheets and spread with them. I'm a weirdo about that in my own home. I have a hard time in hotels too. So once I freaked - it was established = you don't live here - you don't lay there (points to my bed) As far as the birthday - I think I'd call L's boss. I think I'd pick a restaurant you liked and let him bring her, and you bring husband. Then i would get on MY cell phone and talk through dinner, and have husband wear headphones or bring a small TV to watch a ball game. He could keep it under the table on his lap. I would hand her MY gift certificate to that spa you want to go to with her - and tell her that the Shuffle didn't work out - you knew she wouldn't like it so why bother????? Then tell her if she really wants it she can have it -but (shrug) whatever. have the waiter bring a cake - and dont' ignore a call on your phone if it comes mid HAPPY BIRTHDAY DEAR LLL (ring) hello????? HELLO? Then i'd get up, tell her that you will pay the bill - that should be a present too - and skip out of there like you were kids. Swear I would. But see you are nice - I am not so nice. :raspberry-tounge: And as far as M. - Yeah - you're in a good place mentally. I don't know how other than he has hurt you for so long that you just got there or you put yourself there - either way I am so proud of husband I actually gasped out loud when I read what he told him about being a big boy - BRAVO man. BRAVO!!!!! You never did say what you brought me back - I wrote you I wanted something pretty! lol You are an incredible woman, and I swear you make me laugh so hard I have to cover my mouth at work and look like the cat that just ate the bird. WHo me? Laughing? In here? HERE? In my office? no....squeeky patent leather shoe. Hugs Star [/QUOTE]
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