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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 174894" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p><img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" />Linda, </p><p> </p><p>I have yet to discover anything even remotely fair about living with someone who has a disablitily. What Marcie said rings true for me. Sometimes I NEED to be the sick person that gets a little attention and the sick person I give my attention to doesn't want to be sick - he just is and that's the way of it. </p><p> </p><p>A lot of times I have said "I can NOT/WILL not" take another day of THIS (my) life, and left. I love my family - But I have to feel human sometimes too and I would nearly kill for a normal day without hearing about "the pain". I want a day where we're up till midnight and doing old things we did when I met him and found him desirable. </p><p> </p><p>I still love him - but if someone offered me a week away from it? I would run screaming to the hills - for us it's been nearly 9 years of "adjusting" and some days I do not WANT to adjust I just want him to be the man I fell in love with that DOES things with me and doesn't sleep all dang day and leave it all seemingly to me to do. </p><p> </p><p>I want a 2 income home again - and I want things and ---my list can go on and I could get those things very easily - I could leave him, find someone else and have them (snap) but what I REALLY REALLY WANT - is for HIM - the love of my life to be the whole person I knew and for us to have that grow old together but well thing. </p><p> </p><p>THAT? I will never have - so I have a choice - i can either leave him and go live my life without.....or I can blow my top now an then about how ABSOLUTELY FREAKING UNFAIR it is that I had to wait 33 years to find him and 2 years later he's disabled, sleeping or sitting on a couch and has NO interests in ANYTHING. On the other hand I know HE would kill for one day like it used to be as well - and THAT much information has been able to float us through rough times like you are having now. </p><p> </p><p>I just hope a bear doesn't eat his *** in the cabin. Because once he has a weekend alone? I bet he'll be back and then you can tell him - you wish it were different too. </p><p> </p><p>Hugs</p><p>Star</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 174894, member: 4964"] :frowny:Linda, I have yet to discover anything even remotely fair about living with someone who has a disablitily. What Marcie said rings true for me. Sometimes I NEED to be the sick person that gets a little attention and the sick person I give my attention to doesn't want to be sick - he just is and that's the way of it. A lot of times I have said "I can NOT/WILL not" take another day of THIS (my) life, and left. I love my family - But I have to feel human sometimes too and I would nearly kill for a normal day without hearing about "the pain". I want a day where we're up till midnight and doing old things we did when I met him and found him desirable. I still love him - but if someone offered me a week away from it? I would run screaming to the hills - for us it's been nearly 9 years of "adjusting" and some days I do not WANT to adjust I just want him to be the man I fell in love with that DOES things with me and doesn't sleep all dang day and leave it all seemingly to me to do. I want a 2 income home again - and I want things and ---my list can go on and I could get those things very easily - I could leave him, find someone else and have them (snap) but what I REALLY REALLY WANT - is for HIM - the love of my life to be the whole person I knew and for us to have that grow old together but well thing. THAT? I will never have - so I have a choice - i can either leave him and go live my life without.....or I can blow my top now an then about how ABSOLUTELY FREAKING UNFAIR it is that I had to wait 33 years to find him and 2 years later he's disabled, sleeping or sitting on a couch and has NO interests in ANYTHING. On the other hand I know HE would kill for one day like it used to be as well - and THAT much information has been able to float us through rough times like you are having now. I just hope a bear doesn't eat his *** in the cabin. Because once he has a weekend alone? I bet he'll be back and then you can tell him - you wish it were different too. Hugs Star [/QUOTE]
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