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<blockquote data-quote="baiyaat" data-source="post: 560350" data-attributes="member: 15514"><p>Suevv: I just found this while doing a search for "impulse control", and I almost cried when I read your description of your son. Except for the food allergies, he sounds exactly like my son, who is turning 5 next month. Since your post was written a year ago, I'm curious to hear how things have gone since then. </p><p></p><p>In my case, we began with an Occupational Therapist (OT), who has been helping with the sensory processing issues. Then I came across some information about "gifted" children (also called "asynchronous development"), which fit more of his broader personality, including the fact that his healthiest and happiest play experiences are one-on-one with children (especially girls) who are a couple of years older than him. It soon became clear that his impulse control is weakest in in-door situations with groups of children. After a few months of me attending daycare with him (and still paying for it!) to help ease the transitions, etc., I finally gave up and pulled him out of daycare altogether. My child care needs are now covered by my mom-in-law, and a friend who looks after a few kids in her home. In the second case, she is able to give him more outdoor time and more attention than was possible in the group daycare. I know this won't teach him to deal with the more difficult situations, but I feel that he can learn to control himself first by having lots of positive and relaxed play experiences (ex. last month, a 6-year-old girl moved in next-door--they are now "best friends" and planning their wedding!).</p><p></p><p>Even still, I can see that his impulsivity is taking a toll on his self-esteem. He really wants to do the right thing, but when he's tired or overwhelmed or recently eaten a piece of Halloween candy (it only takes a bite, I swear!), he acts roughly with the cat or hits his dad or throws a toy at me. And when this happens, he now gets angry with himself. Tonight as I was putting him to bed, he told me that he sometimes wants to "kill myself". When I asked why, he said "whenever I can't control my hands and I hit somebody or something." After dropping that bomb, he drifted off to sleep as the tears rolled down my face.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="baiyaat, post: 560350, member: 15514"] Suevv: I just found this while doing a search for "impulse control", and I almost cried when I read your description of your son. Except for the food allergies, he sounds exactly like my son, who is turning 5 next month. Since your post was written a year ago, I'm curious to hear how things have gone since then. In my case, we began with an Occupational Therapist (OT), who has been helping with the sensory processing issues. Then I came across some information about "gifted" children (also called "asynchronous development"), which fit more of his broader personality, including the fact that his healthiest and happiest play experiences are one-on-one with children (especially girls) who are a couple of years older than him. It soon became clear that his impulse control is weakest in in-door situations with groups of children. After a few months of me attending daycare with him (and still paying for it!) to help ease the transitions, etc., I finally gave up and pulled him out of daycare altogether. My child care needs are now covered by my mom-in-law, and a friend who looks after a few kids in her home. In the second case, she is able to give him more outdoor time and more attention than was possible in the group daycare. I know this won't teach him to deal with the more difficult situations, but I feel that he can learn to control himself first by having lots of positive and relaxed play experiences (ex. last month, a 6-year-old girl moved in next-door--they are now "best friends" and planning their wedding!). Even still, I can see that his impulsivity is taking a toll on his self-esteem. He really wants to do the right thing, but when he's tired or overwhelmed or recently eaten a piece of Halloween candy (it only takes a bite, I swear!), he acts roughly with the cat or hits his dad or throws a toy at me. And when this happens, he now gets angry with himself. Tonight as I was putting him to bed, he told me that he sometimes wants to "kill myself". When I asked why, he said "whenever I can't control my hands and I hit somebody or something." After dropping that bomb, he drifted off to sleep as the tears rolled down my face. [/QUOTE]
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