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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 525218" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>Do you have any support system? It certainly makes sense that you would be at the end of your rope trying to deal with this alone. I'm sorry.</p><p></p><p>I have raised step teens and "my" teens. I don't know how many years you have been married but my husband and I did find that "my" teen son did not see my husband as "Dad" and therefore was simply polite and saved all the grief for me. Thankfully his s.a. was fairly short lived and he ended up fine BUT it was definitely me and only me who had to make the choices and take the lead. I share this because the relationship you and your husband have could indicate you are "it". Somebody has to be "it". It's not an easy job and especially if you have to do it alone. Hugs.</p><p></p><p>Personally it sounds like your son and his "friends" are totally disrespecting your role as head of household. From your description I picture them ignoring you as they eat your food, break into your house, ignore all rules and act as though they are masters of the household. I don't know how you got the locks all changed last time with success. Did someone help you? Did your husband know in advance? Did your son know in advance? Sharing your previously experience might help us brainstorm with you. I totally disagree with others who believe you should just live with it until your husband returns home. I think you should DO IT...whatever you are comfortable doing...and leave husband out of it.</p><p>No further abuse should be allowed and I "read" you as being an abuse victim.</p><p></p><p>PS: Before I sign off I need to tell you that I quit smoking over a month ago and I am still feeling feisty and irritable.</p><p>So...if I sound like a shrew, lol, I'm basically a good guy going through extended withdrawal from nicotene. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 525218, member: 35"] Do you have any support system? It certainly makes sense that you would be at the end of your rope trying to deal with this alone. I'm sorry. I have raised step teens and "my" teens. I don't know how many years you have been married but my husband and I did find that "my" teen son did not see my husband as "Dad" and therefore was simply polite and saved all the grief for me. Thankfully his s.a. was fairly short lived and he ended up fine BUT it was definitely me and only me who had to make the choices and take the lead. I share this because the relationship you and your husband have could indicate you are "it". Somebody has to be "it". It's not an easy job and especially if you have to do it alone. Hugs. Personally it sounds like your son and his "friends" are totally disrespecting your role as head of household. From your description I picture them ignoring you as they eat your food, break into your house, ignore all rules and act as though they are masters of the household. I don't know how you got the locks all changed last time with success. Did someone help you? Did your husband know in advance? Did your son know in advance? Sharing your previously experience might help us brainstorm with you. I totally disagree with others who believe you should just live with it until your husband returns home. I think you should DO IT...whatever you are comfortable doing...and leave husband out of it. No further abuse should be allowed and I "read" you as being an abuse victim. PS: Before I sign off I need to tell you that I quit smoking over a month ago and I am still feeling feisty and irritable. So...if I sound like a shrew, lol, I'm basically a good guy going through extended withdrawal from nicotene. DDD [/QUOTE]
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