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Am I a Meddling Mom? Sorry it's long
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<blockquote data-quote="'Chelle" data-source="post: 132307" data-attributes="member: 1161"><p>As I mentioned, my first thought was I wished I could tell him that she probably wasn't "the one". And this is from first hand knowledge. I dated ONE boy before I met my husband at 17, and that teenage love he's the one and only kicked in, and I married him 3 days after my 19th birthday. We've been married 28 years and I do still care about him, but after about 2 years I knew the love wasn't the same as I thought at 17. Why we're still married is anyone's guess, other than now we have the kids and debts LOL. So yeah, I understand the teenage angst of being in love, and why I said you couldn't tell him anything different.</p><p></p><p>The best you can do is have his therapists talk about the relationship, because they can say things to him about it that he would not accept from you as him mom. If you feel the need to, explain to her dad what actually happened from your side. I agree with BBK, don't offer apologies for her feelings. I've been told that saying I'm sorry you feel that way is another way of saying you shouldn't feel that way. It's better to let them know you understand why they feel that way, and then share what your feelings are.</p><p></p><p>I hope your difficult child has calmed down, and that the situation for him is improving.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="'Chelle, post: 132307, member: 1161"] As I mentioned, my first thought was I wished I could tell him that she probably wasn't "the one". And this is from first hand knowledge. I dated ONE boy before I met my husband at 17, and that teenage love he's the one and only kicked in, and I married him 3 days after my 19th birthday. We've been married 28 years and I do still care about him, but after about 2 years I knew the love wasn't the same as I thought at 17. Why we're still married is anyone's guess, other than now we have the kids and debts LOL. So yeah, I understand the teenage angst of being in love, and why I said you couldn't tell him anything different. The best you can do is have his therapists talk about the relationship, because they can say things to him about it that he would not accept from you as him mom. If you feel the need to, explain to her dad what actually happened from your side. I agree with BBK, don't offer apologies for her feelings. I've been told that saying I'm sorry you feel that way is another way of saying you shouldn't feel that way. It's better to let them know you understand why they feel that way, and then share what your feelings are. I hope your difficult child has calmed down, and that the situation for him is improving. [/QUOTE]
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