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Am I being mean for feeling this way?
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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 552821" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>CB, can't he have a set of keys that he can use to enter the pool at his own discretion without involving you at all? Of is it one of those deals where the resident has to accompany the guest at the pool? If not, just tell him your weekday evenings are very full with dinner, homework, kid activity and any deviation from that plan does not work for your family. You're doing him a favor, and you get to have whatever boundaries work best for you under the circumstances. Hand him the key, and keep your boundaries intact. I don't think you're being out of line at all, you're taking care of yourself and that's a very good thing. If he has the key, you won't have to let him in, he can go directly to the pool and then leave without seeing you at all. Anything you do out of obligation will soon turn into resentment, so I would carefully outline your boundaries and then adhere to them. You deserve the weekday evenings entirely to yourself if that is what you want and what makes you happy.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 552821, member: 13542"] CB, can't he have a set of keys that he can use to enter the pool at his own discretion without involving you at all? Of is it one of those deals where the resident has to accompany the guest at the pool? If not, just tell him your weekday evenings are very full with dinner, homework, kid activity and any deviation from that plan does not work for your family. You're doing him a favor, and you get to have whatever boundaries work best for you under the circumstances. Hand him the key, and keep your boundaries intact. I don't think you're being out of line at all, you're taking care of yourself and that's a very good thing. If he has the key, you won't have to let him in, he can go directly to the pool and then leave without seeing you at all. Anything you do out of obligation will soon turn into resentment, so I would carefully outline your boundaries and then adhere to them. You deserve the weekday evenings entirely to yourself if that is what you want and what makes you happy. [/QUOTE]
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