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<blockquote data-quote="Littleboylost" data-source="post: 726947" data-attributes="member: 21895"><p>Hi RN</p><p></p><p>This is a challenging time for all of you. It is what it is and one day at a time is how we all survive.</p><p></p><p>It is difficult when we get inside our own heads and begin to fill our thoughts with dreadful anticipation. It is especially difficult when your son keeps on with the question of coming home.</p><p></p><p>Have you talked about this with your therapist lately?</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>A great plan all in good time, December is a long way away.</p><p></p><p>Have you and your husband tried to pause and not answer this question before? This is a technique I learned in redirecting. The pause gives son time to ponder his question and usually redirect himself to the answer that has been given many times before. If he does not answer and continues to press the technique is to identify that this has be n discussed and the answer remains the same and move on to a different topic.</p><p></p><p>Is there someone at his program you can speak to about this?</p><p></p><p>There is no doubt this is a stressful time for you. Work move, rehab in another state, the continued question that brings the addict back to life. Deep breathes and find time to focus on yourself while he is safe and in the program.</p><p></p><p>The positive is he says the program is hard but he hasn’t left. He also has verbalized his need to be there.</p><p></p><p>I do hope the visit goes well and I pray that he stops asking when he can come home. Its not time for that discussion yet.</p><p></p><p>Every morning I meditate and remind myself. It is what it is, one day at a time. I try to express my thoughts and feelings in a safe environment. I try very hard not to get ahead of myself or stuck in my own head too much. It is my sons life to live and like you we have done evrythig we possibly can to help him. The rest is up to them it is their story to write.</p><p></p><p>A very big Hug to you!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Littleboylost, post: 726947, member: 21895"] Hi RN This is a challenging time for all of you. It is what it is and one day at a time is how we all survive. It is difficult when we get inside our own heads and begin to fill our thoughts with dreadful anticipation. It is especially difficult when your son keeps on with the question of coming home. Have you talked about this with your therapist lately? A great plan all in good time, December is a long way away. Have you and your husband tried to pause and not answer this question before? This is a technique I learned in redirecting. The pause gives son time to ponder his question and usually redirect himself to the answer that has been given many times before. If he does not answer and continues to press the technique is to identify that this has be n discussed and the answer remains the same and move on to a different topic. Is there someone at his program you can speak to about this? There is no doubt this is a stressful time for you. Work move, rehab in another state, the continued question that brings the addict back to life. Deep breathes and find time to focus on yourself while he is safe and in the program. The positive is he says the program is hard but he hasn’t left. He also has verbalized his need to be there. I do hope the visit goes well and I pray that he stops asking when he can come home. Its not time for that discussion yet. Every morning I meditate and remind myself. It is what it is, one day at a time. I try to express my thoughts and feelings in a safe environment. I try very hard not to get ahead of myself or stuck in my own head too much. It is my sons life to live and like you we have done evrythig we possibly can to help him. The rest is up to them it is their story to write. A very big Hug to you! [/QUOTE]
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