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<blockquote data-quote="DammitJanet" data-source="post: 609506" data-attributes="member: 1514"><p>You folks are very wise. </p><p></p><p>I think everyone under the sun knows I favor Monkey more than any of the others. I think its because I always wanted a little girl and she became my first little girl. My two middle grands are just hard to like though I do love them. It is a bit easier to deal with though because they arent in my face constantly. I only see them a couple of times a year. I would probably have this same problem if they lived here and I had to deal with them all the time...especially my second oldest granddaughter. She was horrible as a toddler. I had never experienced being cussed out by a 2 year old before! </p><p></p><p>DDD you are completely correct in your assumptions. I do have fear for this little one. I dont think she would qualify for the early head start or at least her parents wont even listen when I say we should try because it would get her out. </p><p>I do probably overcompensate with Monkey because of her life history too. Having her torn away from us at that particular age and then basically not even seeing her for almost two years killed me. She actually thought we didnt want her and it took us a long time when she came back to get her to understand we didnt send her away. Even now she feels like she has been replaced, especially with her Papa. He hurts her feelings sometimes and I tend to be the softie. </p><p></p><p>I hate the way everyone seems to baby the mouse though. Her mother went all out on her 2nd Birthday recently and they had a birthday party they couldnt afford. I know part of it was they wanted all their friends to come and give mouse presents. Of course her mother bought her one of those motorized cars that cost of $120 that looks like a Minnie Mouse VW. I was like...what? Walmart had a little one that cost a quarter of that and she wouldnt have known the difference. One person noticed though...the little girl that we didnt have a huge party for on her birthday just a few months ago. I think part of that is her mother wanting to overcompensate for not taking care of her baby constantly. I felt so bad for Monkey because they had this pinata filled with candy and little bags to pick up what fell and somehow Monkey left her bag on the table where all the presents were sitting and someone stole her bag of candy. She was so upset. Even me offering to go buy her more candy didnt help because it wasnt "that bag" of candy. </p><p></p><p>I know they have made some major mistakes like Mouse has never in her life slept alone. You cant even put her down for a nap without someone laying with her and most of the time if you get up after she falls asleep, she will wake up. Its awful. </p><p></p><p>I do think some things may change though in the not too distant future and it will be hard on the mouse. I also realize part of all this is the extremely difficult relationship between her Papa and I. You would have to be deaf, dumb and blind not to realize we pretty much hate each other at this point. We hardly speak a civil word to each other anymore. Its pretty hard to be here most of the time. At this point Billy says as soon as he gets his income tax check and the check for his accident he will be looking for a place to move to because we argue constantly. </p><p></p><p>I dont know, things arent good here and we shall see. </p><p></p><p>One thing is a bit pathetic. We probably wouldnt be having this much stress if SOMEONE hadnt set me up for being completely stressed out since the summer of 2011. </p><p></p><p>Oh well, not a whole lot I can do except be ticked off. See, one of the things we said from the moment Mouse was conceived was that we wouldnt deal with her in the same way we have dealt with Monkey. We werent going to be the one who raised her or paid for everything. Now it seems like Papa wants to go back on his word in some ways. He likes to be with her constantly but also complains majorly about everything else. </p><p></p><p><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/smile.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":smile:" title="smile :smile:" data-shortname=":smile:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DammitJanet, post: 609506, member: 1514"] You folks are very wise. I think everyone under the sun knows I favor Monkey more than any of the others. I think its because I always wanted a little girl and she became my first little girl. My two middle grands are just hard to like though I do love them. It is a bit easier to deal with though because they arent in my face constantly. I only see them a couple of times a year. I would probably have this same problem if they lived here and I had to deal with them all the time...especially my second oldest granddaughter. She was horrible as a toddler. I had never experienced being cussed out by a 2 year old before! DDD you are completely correct in your assumptions. I do have fear for this little one. I dont think she would qualify for the early head start or at least her parents wont even listen when I say we should try because it would get her out. I do probably overcompensate with Monkey because of her life history too. Having her torn away from us at that particular age and then basically not even seeing her for almost two years killed me. She actually thought we didnt want her and it took us a long time when she came back to get her to understand we didnt send her away. Even now she feels like she has been replaced, especially with her Papa. He hurts her feelings sometimes and I tend to be the softie. I hate the way everyone seems to baby the mouse though. Her mother went all out on her 2nd Birthday recently and they had a birthday party they couldnt afford. I know part of it was they wanted all their friends to come and give mouse presents. Of course her mother bought her one of those motorized cars that cost of $120 that looks like a Minnie Mouse VW. I was like...what? Walmart had a little one that cost a quarter of that and she wouldnt have known the difference. One person noticed though...the little girl that we didnt have a huge party for on her birthday just a few months ago. I think part of that is her mother wanting to overcompensate for not taking care of her baby constantly. I felt so bad for Monkey because they had this pinata filled with candy and little bags to pick up what fell and somehow Monkey left her bag on the table where all the presents were sitting and someone stole her bag of candy. She was so upset. Even me offering to go buy her more candy didnt help because it wasnt "that bag" of candy. I know they have made some major mistakes like Mouse has never in her life slept alone. You cant even put her down for a nap without someone laying with her and most of the time if you get up after she falls asleep, she will wake up. Its awful. I do think some things may change though in the not too distant future and it will be hard on the mouse. I also realize part of all this is the extremely difficult relationship between her Papa and I. You would have to be deaf, dumb and blind not to realize we pretty much hate each other at this point. We hardly speak a civil word to each other anymore. Its pretty hard to be here most of the time. At this point Billy says as soon as he gets his income tax check and the check for his accident he will be looking for a place to move to because we argue constantly. I dont know, things arent good here and we shall see. One thing is a bit pathetic. We probably wouldnt be having this much stress if SOMEONE hadnt set me up for being completely stressed out since the summer of 2011. Oh well, not a whole lot I can do except be ticked off. See, one of the things we said from the moment Mouse was conceived was that we wouldnt deal with her in the same way we have dealt with Monkey. We werent going to be the one who raised her or paid for everything. Now it seems like Papa wants to go back on his word in some ways. He likes to be with her constantly but also complains majorly about everything else. :smile: [/QUOTE]
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