difficult child is in a phase- at least, I hope it's just a phase. When I tell him he needs to do something, like start homework or get in the shower, he comes back with "no, I don't want to" or "I'll do it later" or something else seemingly defiant while he has a smirk on his face. He knows this angers me, then when I yell or put my foot down, he just says "ok" and goes and does it. So, I don't end up feeling like he's such a bad kid- I just don't get why he doesn't do it to begin with instead of jerking my chain first. Does anyone have any suggestions of how to get past this?