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<blockquote data-quote="Ropefree" data-source="post: 212929" data-attributes="member: 6271"><p>TEsting limits is the job children take on and over time they learn some do-zees.</p><p>At that age my son picked up this way of tapping me on the shoulder. It was a purely annoyance tactic...utterly for the sheer power of being really really creepy.</p><p>IT sounds like you need to give something new to hand over responcibility now.</p><p>How about a posted time table with the hour that homework begins and the time when the shower will begin. Introduce it at the family meeting. Clearly at thirteen it is the respocibility of the 13 year old to do their work, chores, bathing, bedtime without prompting. The clock tics at the same rate everyday.</p><p>Take away privideges when the issue arrises again.</p><p>You are empowering your youth with the behavor expectations that are needed.</p><p>If you neglect teaching him to marshal his energy then it will come back and bite you.</p><p>I say things like: you will put your shorts in the landry after you take them off.</p><p>I am not going to have your wife calling me up crying because you do not take care of yourself and others. You are capable and can do it. DO IT.</p><p>I do not want to is a crock. Better start some wanting then.</p><p>Hey...it gets easier with habit. When you value your time then you do the job right and get it done well and do not waste time dragging.</p><p>Is he getting enough sleep? Behavior is always more troubling when tierd, hungery,or joyless.</p><p>Be strong their, sister...get formidable and fearse and keep your sence of humor.</p><p>My dad said something really important to me alot when I was growing up...I could often not find my shoes when it was time to go to school. ANd he would say " I will help you find them. Lets start in the closet"</p><p>I was over thirty befor it dawned on me how brilliant that was. Look where it is suppose to be. Start there..(and eventually putting them in the proper place )</p><p>No time like the present. If the skill seems to need aquiring than why not now?</p><p>It seems like particpating is not important to our kids. But when I did put the foot down and lay out the rules and the chores than what do I over hear? I can not. Ihave chores to do,homework first.</p><p>TAke a deep breath and say it firmly and clearly (again) but do not repeat yourself. Ask "What did I tell you" </p><p>May all mothers of teen boys be joyful and undaunted.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Ropefree, post: 212929, member: 6271"] TEsting limits is the job children take on and over time they learn some do-zees. At that age my son picked up this way of tapping me on the shoulder. It was a purely annoyance tactic...utterly for the sheer power of being really really creepy. IT sounds like you need to give something new to hand over responcibility now. How about a posted time table with the hour that homework begins and the time when the shower will begin. Introduce it at the family meeting. Clearly at thirteen it is the respocibility of the 13 year old to do their work, chores, bathing, bedtime without prompting. The clock tics at the same rate everyday. Take away privideges when the issue arrises again. You are empowering your youth with the behavor expectations that are needed. If you neglect teaching him to marshal his energy then it will come back and bite you. I say things like: you will put your shorts in the landry after you take them off. I am not going to have your wife calling me up crying because you do not take care of yourself and others. You are capable and can do it. DO IT. I do not want to is a crock. Better start some wanting then. Hey...it gets easier with habit. When you value your time then you do the job right and get it done well and do not waste time dragging. Is he getting enough sleep? Behavior is always more troubling when tierd, hungery,or joyless. Be strong their, sister...get formidable and fearse and keep your sence of humor. My dad said something really important to me alot when I was growing up...I could often not find my shoes when it was time to go to school. ANd he would say " I will help you find them. Lets start in the closet" I was over thirty befor it dawned on me how brilliant that was. Look where it is suppose to be. Start there..(and eventually putting them in the proper place ) No time like the present. If the skill seems to need aquiring than why not now? It seems like particpating is not important to our kids. But when I did put the foot down and lay out the rules and the chores than what do I over hear? I can not. Ihave chores to do,homework first. TAke a deep breath and say it firmly and clearly (again) but do not repeat yourself. Ask "What did I tell you" May all mothers of teen boys be joyful and undaunted. [/QUOTE]
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