Warning, LONG!! I just need some opinions other than mine or husband's, all input welcome. easy child is 12, difficult child is 10. They do not get along when there is a parent home, but do well when left alone. I do not like them left alone for more than an hour or 2, it just bugs me especially when it is not necessary. I work 12hr shifts, home about 8 pm. husband has been helping a friend remodel his house. This friend helped us fix up our house before we put it on the market. They have 2 kids, husband is layed off and wife cannot work. When the friend helped he did not have to bring kids, wife does not work so she is home with them all the time. Once in a while he brought his son, which was fine. Now when husband helps friend, I work A LOT!!! Usually 10 or 12 hr shifts, so husband was taking kids and I would pick them up after work if I could. Today husband left about noon, I got home at 8pm. He left kids at home by themselves that entire time!! They are fine, even took baths and got along great, but it just enrages me. One of the reasons he does not take them is because difficult child causes problems. He will not leave the puppy alone, bugs the other boy, and just causes problems. Well, if anyone followed thru on anything and difficult child saw they meant business then maybe he would listen. I guess I feel like husband is choosing friend over family. To me the kids should be most important, and they should not be left alone for 8hrs. Maybe easy child as she is older and more mature, but I hate that if she is alone with difficult child then she feels responsible for him. There is just so much, husband is getting his tonsils out 9/15 so his anxiety is thru the roof, he is losing weight when ENT told him to gain (because he is working himself to death and not eating), and he has had an upper body MRI and now is having an EMG sometime. I never get to talk to him as I am always at work and husband is always helping friend (lately). Thanks to those who finished this. This is a really long post for me.