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<blockquote data-quote="crazymama30" data-source="post: 189733" data-attributes="member: 3184"><p>Marg, after I realized they get along better alone I had to sit and think about it. I think it is due to difficult child's anxiety and insecurity. If husband or I are home, then we are his security and you get the whole sibling rivalry thing. They also compete for attention. If husband or I is not home, then his security is easy child. So he then listens to her. They are really meltdowns, just sibling bickering. She did this, he breathed on me, and so on. To me, a meltdown is much more severe. </p><p> </p><p>If the kids have problems they have my cell phone # and husband's cell phone #---he would have been able to run home. I just feel that 8 hrs is too long. 2 or 3 hours is not so bad, but 8 is a long time. </p><p> </p><p> </p><p>easy child is not left in "charge" of difficult child, she just kind of assumes that role and it bothers me. Or maybe husband tells her she is and does not tell me.</p><p> </p><p>In our state kids can be left alone at age 10. </p><p> </p><p>I did write him a note (he did not get home untill late as he was helping friend) and let him know I was concerned and why. I think part of the problem is he always goes back to how he was raised, that does not work. In this day and age things are different. Life is more dangerous. He just puts his blinders on and says it will be ok. His comment to me was that the kids want to stay home. Kids want to eat candy all the time too, but do we let them????? When I realized what was going on I was 6hrs into a 12hr shift. I need to work and am out of vacation pay. </p><p> </p><p>I do not think this will happen again, and if it does I will have to deal with it in a better manner. Sometimes I get tired of raising 3 kids instead of 2.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="crazymama30, post: 189733, member: 3184"] Marg, after I realized they get along better alone I had to sit and think about it. I think it is due to difficult child's anxiety and insecurity. If husband or I are home, then we are his security and you get the whole sibling rivalry thing. They also compete for attention. If husband or I is not home, then his security is easy child. So he then listens to her. They are really meltdowns, just sibling bickering. She did this, he breathed on me, and so on. To me, a meltdown is much more severe. If the kids have problems they have my cell phone # and husband's cell phone #---he would have been able to run home. I just feel that 8 hrs is too long. 2 or 3 hours is not so bad, but 8 is a long time. easy child is not left in "charge" of difficult child, she just kind of assumes that role and it bothers me. Or maybe husband tells her she is and does not tell me. In our state kids can be left alone at age 10. I did write him a note (he did not get home untill late as he was helping friend) and let him know I was concerned and why. I think part of the problem is he always goes back to how he was raised, that does not work. In this day and age things are different. Life is more dangerous. He just puts his blinders on and says it will be ok. His comment to me was that the kids want to stay home. Kids want to eat candy all the time too, but do we let them????? When I realized what was going on I was 6hrs into a 12hr shift. I need to work and am out of vacation pay. I do not think this will happen again, and if it does I will have to deal with it in a better manner. Sometimes I get tired of raising 3 kids instead of 2. [/QUOTE]
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