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Am I wrong to be so cynical?
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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 553238" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>I tend to always be the optimist in all things, so take that into consideration, however, I would be open to the changes and 'cautiously optimistic,' as the saying goes. You don't want to set yourself up to be heartbroken and disappointed if this doesn't work out as he sees it will. on the other hand, you can enjoy this time while he is okay, stay in the present moment and if it all goes to hell in a hand basket later on, it's not like you haven't been there. Waiting for the other shoe to drop is part of this particular parenting trip because we are up and down with their ups and downs, so some of what you're feeling is conditioning. I think most of us are quite familiar with the "other shoe dropping syndrome." As I get better at detaching I don't want my world to revolve around what antics my difficult child is up to or not, so perhaps this could provide an opportunity for you to try to stay neutral about it. At least, that's my goal. For me it's like meditation, my meditation teacher used to tell me, "just sit and practice, it's always a practice." Now, I 'practice' detachment and acceptance, a lot.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 553238, member: 13542"] I tend to always be the optimist in all things, so take that into consideration, however, I would be open to the changes and 'cautiously optimistic,' as the saying goes. You don't want to set yourself up to be heartbroken and disappointed if this doesn't work out as he sees it will. on the other hand, you can enjoy this time while he is okay, stay in the present moment and if it all goes to hell in a hand basket later on, it's not like you haven't been there. Waiting for the other shoe to drop is part of this particular parenting trip because we are up and down with their ups and downs, so some of what you're feeling is conditioning. I think most of us are quite familiar with the "other shoe dropping syndrome." As I get better at detaching I don't want my world to revolve around what antics my difficult child is up to or not, so perhaps this could provide an opportunity for you to try to stay neutral about it. At least, that's my goal. For me it's like meditation, my meditation teacher used to tell me, "just sit and practice, it's always a practice." Now, I 'practice' detachment and acceptance, a lot. [/QUOTE]
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