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<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 195022" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>Stick to the date. I am surprised that he is asking for an entire month - most kids will ask for one week (at a time).</p><p> </p><p>I told my easy child when she asked for me to "rescue" her from the last minute of registering for on-line classes (and I do literally mean the last minute - gosh that kid), "You had five (5) months to register. Do not make this my problem. You don't wait until the last second and then try to find someone to do it for you! You make the phone calls." She ended up calling her 12th grade school's secretary at home to get her transcript. I hope she is learning that her procrastination makes life miserable for everyone not just her and I for one am not going to save her from it. Let her squirm - she has to learn the hard way so be it.</p><p> </p><p>I would say the same to her if I had given her a deadline to move out. There is still over two weeks left - he can figure it out! If he really does have a plan, there is no reason it will not work for Sept 30th. If you do not hold your ground on this, he will only learn that you don't mean what you say and the next deadline will be so much worse to keep.</p><p> </p><p>I don't buy that a down payment for a Nov 1st apt is due right now. There has to be places available Oct 1st. I would tell him that you will only pay the landlord direct with a check - no cash EVER. He will come to you with a bogus story that they lost the appointment and the downpayment was non-refundable. </p><p> </p><p>My easy child is also good at manipulating money sources - She amazes me with how she can call in favors to repay someone. The, "Well, you owe me $30 and I owe so and so $20 so you pay me $10 and so and so $20." No, I pay you $30 and you pay so and so $20. My sisters use to try that also. They would never be in debt - just passed their debts onto whoever owed them $$$.</p><p> </p><p>When he told YOU to deal with it -that is disrespect BIG time and the first signal that you should not extend the date. You do not have to deal with his schedule. He needs to deal with the deadlines not ask they be changed to make his life easier. I feel that disrespect big time. I get a little from easy child and as it grows, she will also be kicked out.</p><p> </p><p>So, especially since he disrespected you by trying to make this your problem, he must go on the original date!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 195022, member: 5096"] Stick to the date. I am surprised that he is asking for an entire month - most kids will ask for one week (at a time). I told my easy child when she asked for me to "rescue" her from the last minute of registering for on-line classes (and I do literally mean the last minute - gosh that kid), "You had five (5) months to register. Do not make this my problem. You don't wait until the last second and then try to find someone to do it for you! You make the phone calls." She ended up calling her 12th grade school's secretary at home to get her transcript. I hope she is learning that her procrastination makes life miserable for everyone not just her and I for one am not going to save her from it. Let her squirm - she has to learn the hard way so be it. I would say the same to her if I had given her a deadline to move out. There is still over two weeks left - he can figure it out! If he really does have a plan, there is no reason it will not work for Sept 30th. If you do not hold your ground on this, he will only learn that you don't mean what you say and the next deadline will be so much worse to keep. I don't buy that a down payment for a Nov 1st apt is due right now. There has to be places available Oct 1st. I would tell him that you will only pay the landlord direct with a check - no cash EVER. He will come to you with a bogus story that they lost the appointment and the downpayment was non-refundable. My easy child is also good at manipulating money sources - She amazes me with how she can call in favors to repay someone. The, "Well, you owe me $30 and I owe so and so $20 so you pay me $10 and so and so $20." No, I pay you $30 and you pay so and so $20. My sisters use to try that also. They would never be in debt - just passed their debts onto whoever owed them $$$. When he told YOU to deal with it -that is disrespect BIG time and the first signal that you should not extend the date. You do not have to deal with his schedule. He needs to deal with the deadlines not ask they be changed to make his life easier. I feel that disrespect big time. I get a little from easy child and as it grows, she will also be kicked out. So, especially since he disrespected you by trying to make this your problem, he must go on the original date! [/QUOTE]
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