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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember1" data-source="post: 755854" data-attributes="member: 23706"><p>Copa, good memory.I remember too partly because my parents were poor. We lived in a city and my mom would take us on the bus to shop and we all helped carry. We liked helping and had fun. The poor still often shop this way. In certain places it is no big deal and some still buy carts or steal carts to use. Obviously I wish folks would not steal.</p><p></p><p>But you don't have to steal to shop on your own. And carts are cheap and at thrift stores too.</p><p></p><p>Life is hard when you don't work, for any reason, and have many kids. You don't need to do so omany things for daughter in law. You CAN sit your grands while SHE shops.</p><p></p><p>That is enough and then she won't have to bring them with and you can spend time with them.</p><p></p><p>I remember being poor, buying thrift shop clothes and shoes, riding city buses, learning how to cook cheap but tasty, being so happy when Dad got a good job and climbed the ladder. My parents rose to middle class but we still all were frugal and enjoyed saving money and walking rather than always driving.</p><p></p><p>When my husband and I started a successful business, we remained frugal until Kay started getting into trouble. But I will always believe that letting her live a less pampered life would have done her more good as a person. I did not and do regret the years we threw money and rescue at her. She did not gain character or skills. She may have if we had chosen a way that made her responsible for herself. </p><p></p><p>Sadly Kay and your daughter in law are entitled and don't want to work hard but expect all the perks of working hard. We did and do what we do out of love. There is that. WE are loving even if they are not.</p><p></p><p>My husband and I quit helping her and now Kay needs to utilize the resources of he poor and unemployed. I hope this helps her evolve as a person. I don't expect it but I hope. I hope she finds a loving heart. We all have this but some turn away from this gift.</p><p></p><p>God bless.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember1, post: 755854, member: 23706"] Copa, good memory.I remember too partly because my parents were poor. We lived in a city and my mom would take us on the bus to shop and we all helped carry. We liked helping and had fun. The poor still often shop this way. In certain places it is no big deal and some still buy carts or steal carts to use. Obviously I wish folks would not steal. But you don't have to steal to shop on your own. And carts are cheap and at thrift stores too. Life is hard when you don't work, for any reason, and have many kids. You don't need to do so omany things for daughter in law. You CAN sit your grands while SHE shops. That is enough and then she won't have to bring them with and you can spend time with them. I remember being poor, buying thrift shop clothes and shoes, riding city buses, learning how to cook cheap but tasty, being so happy when Dad got a good job and climbed the ladder. My parents rose to middle class but we still all were frugal and enjoyed saving money and walking rather than always driving. When my husband and I started a successful business, we remained frugal until Kay started getting into trouble. But I will always believe that letting her live a less pampered life would have done her more good as a person. I did not and do regret the years we threw money and rescue at her. She did not gain character or skills. She may have if we had chosen a way that made her responsible for herself. Sadly Kay and your daughter in law are entitled and don't want to work hard but expect all the perks of working hard. We did and do what we do out of love. There is that. WE are loving even if they are not. My husband and I quit helping her and now Kay needs to utilize the resources of he poor and unemployed. I hope this helps her evolve as a person. I don't expect it but I hope. I hope she finds a loving heart. We all have this but some turn away from this gift. God bless. [/QUOTE]
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