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<blockquote data-quote="InsaneCdn" data-source="post: 685450" data-attributes="member: 11791"><p>Well... I'm usually bouncing off my soapbox on this one...</p><p> </p><p>I don't think the problem with drug culture and our kids is really a drug culture problem.</p><p> </p><p>Kids today are the third or fourth generation to grow up with less and less of a "village" around them. It used to be, you had uncles and aunts and third cousins all over the county you lived in and the next two over. The neighbor was a lady your mom went to school with. Everybody knew you, and you knew everybody. You hung around with a group of kids that was everything from 5 years younger than you, to 10 years older. Family and community activities were huge - and organized sports were non-existent. You were cared for by family - sometimes by a stay at home mom, sometimes by grandparents or aunts and uncles, but daycare was unheard of.</p><p> </p><p>Today, most kids are segregated into age-specific groups before six months of age. And they stay there for the rest of their growing up - daycare, school, sports, many other activities, are all age-segregated. Peers become "the" go-to resource for our kids, because they don't HAVE any other go-to resource. The kids spend more time between school, daycare and sports, than they do with parents. <strong><em>This isn't necessarily the case with YOUR kids or with mine... but it has become "normal".</em></strong> Therefore, everything is planned around this lock-step development. It works against kids with special needs (especially complex kids with normal or above intelligence), who develop at different rates. And because so much emphasis has been put for so long on "the importance of peers and peer relationships", most kids have no where to turn for help except to peers. Because this is "normal", even most counselors strongly support it. <em>But it is destructive</em>. To me, THIS is where drug culture comes from.</p><p> </p><p>Any one of us can't change the damage of three or four generations. And it will get worse. It almost requires a revolution ... or a major economic collapse... something that will rewrite the starting point back to the basic building blocks of "the family" and "the extended family".</p><p> </p><p>Added clarification: I do not believe the problem is in any one family, or that there is or was much if anything that could have been changed by any one family. The problem is on a much bigger scale - and therefore, very difficult to challenge.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="InsaneCdn, post: 685450, member: 11791"] Well... I'm usually bouncing off my soapbox on this one... I don't think the problem with drug culture and our kids is really a drug culture problem. Kids today are the third or fourth generation to grow up with less and less of a "village" around them. It used to be, you had uncles and aunts and third cousins all over the county you lived in and the next two over. The neighbor was a lady your mom went to school with. Everybody knew you, and you knew everybody. You hung around with a group of kids that was everything from 5 years younger than you, to 10 years older. Family and community activities were huge - and organized sports were non-existent. You were cared for by family - sometimes by a stay at home mom, sometimes by grandparents or aunts and uncles, but daycare was unheard of. Today, most kids are segregated into age-specific groups before six months of age. And they stay there for the rest of their growing up - daycare, school, sports, many other activities, are all age-segregated. Peers become "the" go-to resource for our kids, because they don't HAVE any other go-to resource. The kids spend more time between school, daycare and sports, than they do with parents. [B][I]This isn't necessarily the case with YOUR kids or with mine... but it has become "normal".[/I][/B] Therefore, everything is planned around this lock-step development. It works against kids with special needs (especially complex kids with normal or above intelligence), who develop at different rates. And because so much emphasis has been put for so long on "the importance of peers and peer relationships", most kids have no where to turn for help except to peers. Because this is "normal", even most counselors strongly support it. [I]But it is destructive[/I]. To me, THIS is where drug culture comes from. Any one of us can't change the damage of three or four generations. And it will get worse. It almost requires a revolution ... or a major economic collapse... something that will rewrite the starting point back to the basic building blocks of "the family" and "the extended family". Added clarification: I do not believe the problem is in any one family, or that there is or was much if anything that could have been changed by any one family. The problem is on a much bigger scale - and therefore, very difficult to challenge. [/QUOTE]
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