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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 626034" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>It is a wonderful healthy thing to write down. Write down to him, clearly. Write down for yourself. There is something about writing down that changes the patterns we live. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I love this! We have an intense physical sensation before we have an intense emotional sensation when difficult child does yet something else. Very interesting that our bodies just naturally react with an adrenaline rush. And then our mind can take over and say, well, okay that was awful, but hey, it is what it is, there's nothing I can do, so.....let's keep moving forward. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Yes!!!!! I love your clear and positive message, black. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Yes you do! Yes you do! It's time for you. Write that down, black, and continue to claim it, no matter what. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Wow, I am thinking about this. I read what Echo and RE said about hope. I didn't like reading what they said. It seem....I don't know...shouldn't we always have hope? But hope gets me into trouble with difficult child. I don't know about this. I am going to think on this more. If I accept him as he is, I mean exactly as he is, and let go of any expectations at all, stop actively waiting for him to change, is that the giving up of hope? Or believing that it's never going to change---is that a good thing? is THAT the giving up of hope? I don't know. I just don't know about this piece of it. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Yes it is. It surely is. I went to an Al-Anon meeting last night. There was a woman there for her very first time. She cried throughout the whole meeting and never shared. I talked with her after the meeting. She is in so much pain. Her husband is an alcoholic and she is miserable. I was there at one point. I was just a mass of feelings. I was filled with despair and I didn't know what to do or where to turn. I just wanted it to stop. She brought me back to that place, where I once was. I was able to share a bit of hope with her about herself and the fact that she can move to a place of happiness. It was hard for her to believe right now, and I also shared that I understand that. </p><p></p><p>It is a gift to be able to share with others what we have been through, gently, compassionately and without expecting anything in return. </p><p></p><p>What a journey this is through addiction and mental illness. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>That is so true, Cedar. I am reminded that pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional. The day I first heard that, I mean really heard it, was a great day for me.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 626034, member: 17542"] It is a wonderful healthy thing to write down. Write down to him, clearly. Write down for yourself. There is something about writing down that changes the patterns we live. I love this! We have an intense physical sensation before we have an intense emotional sensation when difficult child does yet something else. Very interesting that our bodies just naturally react with an adrenaline rush. And then our mind can take over and say, well, okay that was awful, but hey, it is what it is, there's nothing I can do, so.....let's keep moving forward. Yes!!!!! I love your clear and positive message, black. Yes you do! Yes you do! It's time for you. Write that down, black, and continue to claim it, no matter what. Wow, I am thinking about this. I read what Echo and RE said about hope. I didn't like reading what they said. It seem....I don't know...shouldn't we always have hope? But hope gets me into trouble with difficult child. I don't know about this. I am going to think on this more. If I accept him as he is, I mean exactly as he is, and let go of any expectations at all, stop actively waiting for him to change, is that the giving up of hope? Or believing that it's never going to change---is that a good thing? is THAT the giving up of hope? I don't know. I just don't know about this piece of it. Yes it is. It surely is. I went to an Al-Anon meeting last night. There was a woman there for her very first time. She cried throughout the whole meeting and never shared. I talked with her after the meeting. She is in so much pain. Her husband is an alcoholic and she is miserable. I was there at one point. I was just a mass of feelings. I was filled with despair and I didn't know what to do or where to turn. I just wanted it to stop. She brought me back to that place, where I once was. I was able to share a bit of hope with her about herself and the fact that she can move to a place of happiness. It was hard for her to believe right now, and I also shared that I understand that. It is a gift to be able to share with others what we have been through, gently, compassionately and without expecting anything in return. What a journey this is through addiction and mental illness. That is so true, Cedar. I am reminded that pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional. The day I first heard that, I mean really heard it, was a great day for me. [/QUOTE]
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