I've been in contact with Katie for a few months now. If you can call it that. It's a month at least before a response arrives in the mail. (the girl lives across town) The last letter I sent her I invited them to the halloween party and Nichole invited them to Thanksgiving. Well, I knew before I sent it she'd not respond until after the party, and I was right. I just got her response yesterday in fact. She won't be coming to Thanksgiving either as Kayla has strep throat and Alex supposedly has pneumonia again. Expected that too. For all her "you never called, stopped by, dropped in" nonsense..........it's her keeping the distance in place. It was that way before the blow up last year, and it's that way now. The why behind that could be a long list of things and I've just let it go. But it certainly is NOT us. easy child saw the kids while they were Trick or Treating. Kayla ran up and threw her arms around her and told her how much she missed everyone. The last letter I sent I also send halloween cards to each of the kids. Katie hadn't yet given me the go ahead to contact them and I decided I didn't give a darn, I was going to do so anyway. lol I'd also decided I was sending them xmas ones too, whether she liked it or not. I nearly fell over when I read this letter. One, seems Kayla has to get her tonsils out soon and would like us to "visit" her. Last I heard that is an out patient procedure. But that might be her way of saying she'd like us there for the surgery. I don't have a problem doing that as long as it is local. Then she accepted the invite to xmas and said she wanted to contribute to the dinner. Now I'm not getting excited in the least. Honestly I'm a bit irked as this is somewhat last minute........and due to her hee hawing about not wanting to participate in family functions we'd gotten used to the idea she was most likely not coming and had planned accordingly. In other words, they were on no one's xmas lists. So now we're left trying to figure out what to give them when we haven't seen/talked to them in a whole year. Except I do have Evan's gift already. I spotted a Little Tykes tool bench with all the tools on the yard sale fb site for our area really cheap and snatched it up with Evan in mind. lol I just figured I'd find an excuse at some point to give it to him. Katie being Katie, she could easily change her mind again. (although I'm hoping those halloween cards from Nana started them nagging her) So I warned the kids not to put a lot into their gifts money wise and risk them not showing up to get them. I dunno what to do with this kid. So I'm not doing much of anything but keeping in touch with her. Katie will reach out eagerly and then withdraw with excuses. This last letter......well, it was that reach out eagerly, almost desperately, thing again. I have a notice from the court of common pleas today that I think is just a jury notice. Not sure what I'm supposed to do with it. She has to respond. So I guess I have my excuse to "drop by" on her. Although who knows if someone will open the darn door. Gee........not really much of an update, huh?