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<blockquote data-quote="Kathy813" data-source="post: 716354" data-attributes="member: 1967"><p>Well, that was fast. You are right . . . it is only a matter of time until the job is gone. Then the true test will be if you can hold strong when he has nowhere to live and no food to eat.</p><p></p><p>Please remember that at that point, he does have options. Since he has insurance, he can find a treatment center followed by sober living and IOP. However, he has to be the one to make the calls and find a place to go. They will even arrange transportation to get him there.</p><p></p><p>He knows what to do. He has contacts from his previous stays in treatment. He can find a place to go if he truly wants to get sober. Until then, there is nothing you can do to control his drug use. My therapist used to tell me that over and over. She would say that my daughter was going to do what she wanted to do and that there was absolutely nothing I could do to control her choices.</p><p></p><p>Please know that I feel your pain. Benzos are (were) my daughter's drug of choice. She told me recently that if she had a choice between benzos and heroin (and she had used both) she would chose benzos every time. It is a very hard addiction to fight because coming off them requires detox. Going cold turkey can lead to seizures. My daughter had several seizures when she tried to stop without help.</p><p></p><p>If it is any comfort, I think the multiple stays in rehab actually helped my daughter. I think she learned something from each stay which eventually helped her get sober. I think it is very, very rare that an addict or alcoholic goes to one 30-day stay in rehab and stays clean forever after that.</p><p></p><p>In her last treatment center (her fifth stay in rehab), she told me that she felt like she could teach the classes. When her insurance cut her stay short, I was upset but she wasn't. She said that she had heard it all before and it was time to put it into practice. She went into a wonderful sober living/IOP program and has been sober for 17 months. I think the difference was that she was just tired of living a drug life and was ready to put what she learned into practice.</p><p></p><p>My husband and I spent over sixty thousand dollars for one three-month program when my daughter did not have health insurance (pre-ACA). I don't even regret that even though she relapsed shortly after she finished the program. I believe sending her away saved her life by getting her away from her druggie friends and at least made her realize that she did indeed have a problem.</p><p></p><p>RN, I truly believe your son will "get it." If my daughter could get sober, there is hope for all of our kids.</p><p></p><p>~Kathy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kathy813, post: 716354, member: 1967"] Well, that was fast. You are right . . . it is only a matter of time until the job is gone. Then the true test will be if you can hold strong when he has nowhere to live and no food to eat. Please remember that at that point, he does have options. Since he has insurance, he can find a treatment center followed by sober living and IOP. However, he has to be the one to make the calls and find a place to go. They will even arrange transportation to get him there. He knows what to do. He has contacts from his previous stays in treatment. He can find a place to go if he truly wants to get sober. Until then, there is nothing you can do to control his drug use. My therapist used to tell me that over and over. She would say that my daughter was going to do what she wanted to do and that there was absolutely nothing I could do to control her choices. Please know that I feel your pain. Benzos are (were) my daughter's drug of choice. She told me recently that if she had a choice between benzos and heroin (and she had used both) she would chose benzos every time. It is a very hard addiction to fight because coming off them requires detox. Going cold turkey can lead to seizures. My daughter had several seizures when she tried to stop without help. If it is any comfort, I think the multiple stays in rehab actually helped my daughter. I think she learned something from each stay which eventually helped her get sober. I think it is very, very rare that an addict or alcoholic goes to one 30-day stay in rehab and stays clean forever after that. In her last treatment center (her fifth stay in rehab), she told me that she felt like she could teach the classes. When her insurance cut her stay short, I was upset but she wasn't. She said that she had heard it all before and it was time to put it into practice. She went into a wonderful sober living/IOP program and has been sober for 17 months. I think the difference was that she was just tired of living a drug life and was ready to put what she learned into practice. My husband and I spent over sixty thousand dollars for one three-month program when my daughter did not have health insurance (pre-ACA). I don't even regret that even though she relapsed shortly after she finished the program. I believe sending her away saved her life by getting her away from her druggie friends and at least made her realize that she did indeed have a problem. RN, I truly believe your son will "get it." If my daughter could get sober, there is hope for all of our kids. ~Kathy [/QUOTE]
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