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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 631109" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>I would amend that to say: I'm so sick and tired. That's why you're here on this board, Lil. You are looking for a different way.</p><p></p><p>You've done and done and done and done, and still the raw gaping hole of need that is our difficult children is never filled up. </p><p></p><p>Nobody---nobody in this world---can fill the need of another human being. THEY have to fill their own needs. They have to live their own lives. We can't live their lives for them. </p><p></p><p>The only way to give them space and time and a chance to do that, is for us to create that space and time and distance. </p><p></p><p>It's way past time, way way way, past time, for us to focus on ourselves. That doesn't mean cut them off at the knees. </p><p></p><p>It's detachment with love. And the space and time and distance helps us do that.</p><p></p><p>Lil, start creating more space between the two of you. Do it in little ways at first, and then in bigger ways. Do it slowly so it works for YOU. </p><p></p><p>You will start to feel so much better. I guarantee it. Warm hugs and good sleep.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 631109, member: 17542"] I would amend that to say: I'm so sick and tired. That's why you're here on this board, Lil. You are looking for a different way. You've done and done and done and done, and still the raw gaping hole of need that is our difficult children is never filled up. Nobody---nobody in this world---can fill the need of another human being. THEY have to fill their own needs. They have to live their own lives. We can't live their lives for them. The only way to give them space and time and a chance to do that, is for us to create that space and time and distance. It's way past time, way way way, past time, for us to focus on ourselves. That doesn't mean cut them off at the knees. It's detachment with love. And the space and time and distance helps us do that. Lil, start creating more space between the two of you. Do it in little ways at first, and then in bigger ways. Do it slowly so it works for YOU. You will start to feel so much better. I guarantee it. Warm hugs and good sleep. [/QUOTE]
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