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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 480281" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>Steely, a week ago PO was telling me we had option of difficult child coming home, either with a caseworker from 're-entry' program or on ankle bracelet and therapuetic mentor, or difficult child going to a group home run by re-entry program then having intensive services by them once difficult child earned his way out of that, or foster care. I wanted to weigh those options so he told me that we had a meeting with him, me, his super, and re-entry lady to discuss all this. But apparently, he told his super and re-entry lady the meeting was just to get me to buy into the group home and answer my questions or respect his authority or something- he clearly hadn't been telling us all the same thing. And after that meeting, he asked to meet with me privately and then he told me again that it was my choice, I asked what he recommended and he sais re-entry's intensive services with difficult child coming straight home but I was concerned about difficult child not having a mentor that route so he told me he would check into that and call me Monday am to let me know if the caseworker from re-entry could work on weekends with difficult child and double as a mentor. He didn't call Monday- He called yesterday and gave me a spill about how the parole plan wasn;'t up to me- he wrote it and it was set in stone that difficult child would go to the group home. I asked about the stuff he'd previously told me and he tried tto "explain" (make excuses) for telling me one thing then tellng me another. But he stressed the fact yesterday that difficult child was in Department of Juvenile Justice custody, not mine, and it remained that way even once difficult child was on parole. </p><p></p><p>So to answer your question, today I have no options.</p><p></p><p>I guess what's on the table is that the current plan says difficult child will go to a group home that he has to work his way out of and the average length of stay is 6-8 mos. This is coming from Department of Juvenile Justice incarceration that he's having to work his way out of. Part of his requirements are to complete their anger management program and this will be his 4th one, the second time I've gone thru it with him. But, this will all put him right at 18yo when he can get out. So the question on my table (not POs because he's ordering this), is whether or not to do this BS with min 90 days intensive inhome behavior mod once difficult child completes that and returns home, or to just throw in the towel and tell them re-unification is out of the picture so they help difficult child transition to independent living and this family koi is taken off the parole plan- leaving me officially a bad parentin their eyes,but leaving them out of difficult child's and my relationship.</p><p></p><p>Is that clear as mud now? LOL!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 480281, member: 3699"] Steely, a week ago PO was telling me we had option of difficult child coming home, either with a caseworker from 're-entry' program or on ankle bracelet and therapuetic mentor, or difficult child going to a group home run by re-entry program then having intensive services by them once difficult child earned his way out of that, or foster care. I wanted to weigh those options so he told me that we had a meeting with him, me, his super, and re-entry lady to discuss all this. But apparently, he told his super and re-entry lady the meeting was just to get me to buy into the group home and answer my questions or respect his authority or something- he clearly hadn't been telling us all the same thing. And after that meeting, he asked to meet with me privately and then he told me again that it was my choice, I asked what he recommended and he sais re-entry's intensive services with difficult child coming straight home but I was concerned about difficult child not having a mentor that route so he told me he would check into that and call me Monday am to let me know if the caseworker from re-entry could work on weekends with difficult child and double as a mentor. He didn't call Monday- He called yesterday and gave me a spill about how the parole plan wasn;'t up to me- he wrote it and it was set in stone that difficult child would go to the group home. I asked about the stuff he'd previously told me and he tried tto "explain" (make excuses) for telling me one thing then tellng me another. But he stressed the fact yesterday that difficult child was in Department of Juvenile Justice custody, not mine, and it remained that way even once difficult child was on parole. So to answer your question, today I have no options. I guess what's on the table is that the current plan says difficult child will go to a group home that he has to work his way out of and the average length of stay is 6-8 mos. This is coming from Department of Juvenile Justice incarceration that he's having to work his way out of. Part of his requirements are to complete their anger management program and this will be his 4th one, the second time I've gone thru it with him. But, this will all put him right at 18yo when he can get out. So the question on my table (not POs because he's ordering this), is whether or not to do this BS with min 90 days intensive inhome behavior mod once difficult child completes that and returns home, or to just throw in the towel and tell them re-unification is out of the picture so they help difficult child transition to independent living and this family koi is taken off the parole plan- leaving me officially a bad parentin their eyes,but leaving them out of difficult child's and my relationship. Is that clear as mud now? LOL! [/QUOTE]
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