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And the craziness just keeps on coming with 35 difficult child...
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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 592160" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Are you SURE that 35 is not living in a trailer going to grad school in OK? Some of the things you say about him are SOOOOOOOOO gfgbro. Right down to the abusive sexual behavior with a sibling and 'not remembering' high school or any other abusive anything that he has done to anyone but every pseudo abusive thing he claims other have done to him. </p><p></p><p>I am so sorry. He may love J, but he ONLY loves J because J is an extension of himself. As soon as J shows ANY signs of wanting to do what J wants to do and NOT worshipping 35 as his God and not wanting to live life dictated by 35's whims and narcissism, he won't have much to do with J that is positive for J. It is what it is. I know how hard this is, and I promise that the alanon will help you a lot. PLEASE make it a priority for tomorrow. You have to figure out your boundaries and make 35 respect them. It is good that he lives so far away because he cannot drive over to harass you at a moment's notice. Of course he could pull a page out of bro's book and call the cops to report he was on the phone with you and your husband got mad and was beating you, but I don't think he cares enough to invest the time to look up the phone number to your police. </p><p></p><p>I hope you can figure out a way to detach in a healthy way and to not listen to his stupidity. I am sorry that ex is indulging him. I feel bad for J and am quite sure that for now he will be fairly good when he has J. It will be when J is showing signs of having a mind of his own that your son will lose interest in him or become abusive in an obvious way. Until then it will be emotional manipulation for wanting to spend time with his mommy or thinking anything positive about his mommy or stepdad to be that J will have to deal with. </p><p></p><p>Some people just should not be allowed to have kids until they have dealt with some things. Who and how we know and how we stop them? I have no idea. I just feel for the kids in a BIG way. I know my exsil has messed up every one of her kids.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 592160, member: 1233"] Are you SURE that 35 is not living in a trailer going to grad school in OK? Some of the things you say about him are SOOOOOOOOO gfgbro. Right down to the abusive sexual behavior with a sibling and 'not remembering' high school or any other abusive anything that he has done to anyone but every pseudo abusive thing he claims other have done to him. I am so sorry. He may love J, but he ONLY loves J because J is an extension of himself. As soon as J shows ANY signs of wanting to do what J wants to do and NOT worshipping 35 as his God and not wanting to live life dictated by 35's whims and narcissism, he won't have much to do with J that is positive for J. It is what it is. I know how hard this is, and I promise that the alanon will help you a lot. PLEASE make it a priority for tomorrow. You have to figure out your boundaries and make 35 respect them. It is good that he lives so far away because he cannot drive over to harass you at a moment's notice. Of course he could pull a page out of bro's book and call the cops to report he was on the phone with you and your husband got mad and was beating you, but I don't think he cares enough to invest the time to look up the phone number to your police. I hope you can figure out a way to detach in a healthy way and to not listen to his stupidity. I am sorry that ex is indulging him. I feel bad for J and am quite sure that for now he will be fairly good when he has J. It will be when J is showing signs of having a mind of his own that your son will lose interest in him or become abusive in an obvious way. Until then it will be emotional manipulation for wanting to spend time with his mommy or thinking anything positive about his mommy or stepdad to be that J will have to deal with. Some people just should not be allowed to have kids until they have dealt with some things. Who and how we know and how we stop them? I have no idea. I just feel for the kids in a BIG way. I know my exsil has messed up every one of her kids. [/QUOTE]
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