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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 508857" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p></p><p></p><p>That's exactly what I'm thinking. But I'm still pondering what could possibly be the next step if this is some sly way of ...I don't know....when people aren't honest with me and have already discredited themselves to me over something this important, I simply can't see trusting this guy (PO) just yet. Still, it might be a way to get difficult child back in my custody while still looking for a job outside of this area so I can move and get us both out of this jurisdiction- I really do think this would be another situation like with that probation officer. It's just too obvious, unless he really has had some sudden miraculous change or it was his super stepping in botching things up. And reentry lady makes my skin crawl- she is very condescending and sounds like she thinks parents aren't capable of doing squat and she sounded like a used car salesman to me. If she writes any behavior contract, it's obvious it would be dumber than the one proposed that difficult child would quit breaking the law and I'd fix what he wanted for dinner more often. This whole format they use in this state for behavior contracts is stupid- and between a psychiatric and attny I talked to here, they are all taught to do it the same way and it starts with a standard form. </p><p></p><p>I'd rather my son be in this detention center for 30-90 days than to be in that dump of a GH for a long period. Now, if he messes up at home, I'd sign to prevent a 3rd commitment to Department of Juvenile Justice, if they would allow it. As always, the concern is that these people making the choices- PO and reentry lady- aren't knowledgable enough to order appropriate services and they are limited to what they can provide and we end up spending tons of time and energy on stuff that isn't helping at all, while we start falling apart and end up in crisis mode then difficult child reoffends. Unfortunately, there just doesn't seem to be any way to even get these people to see that, much less understand it. I guess they are just to "lost in their forest" of typical csu stuff and of course, they are never going to be as concerned about making good decisions as the parent. </p><p></p><p>But I'm remaining positive about this step right now, especially to difficult child.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 508857, member: 3699"] [I][/I] That's exactly what I'm thinking. But I'm still pondering what could possibly be the next step if this is some sly way of ...I don't know....when people aren't honest with me and have already discredited themselves to me over something this important, I simply can't see trusting this guy (PO) just yet. Still, it might be a way to get difficult child back in my custody while still looking for a job outside of this area so I can move and get us both out of this jurisdiction- I really do think this would be another situation like with that probation officer. It's just too obvious, unless he really has had some sudden miraculous change or it was his super stepping in botching things up. And reentry lady makes my skin crawl- she is very condescending and sounds like she thinks parents aren't capable of doing squat and she sounded like a used car salesman to me. If she writes any behavior contract, it's obvious it would be dumber than the one proposed that difficult child would quit breaking the law and I'd fix what he wanted for dinner more often. This whole format they use in this state for behavior contracts is stupid- and between a psychiatric and attny I talked to here, they are all taught to do it the same way and it starts with a standard form. I'd rather my son be in this detention center for 30-90 days than to be in that dump of a GH for a long period. Now, if he messes up at home, I'd sign to prevent a 3rd commitment to Department of Juvenile Justice, if they would allow it. As always, the concern is that these people making the choices- PO and reentry lady- aren't knowledgable enough to order appropriate services and they are limited to what they can provide and we end up spending tons of time and energy on stuff that isn't helping at all, while we start falling apart and end up in crisis mode then difficult child reoffends. Unfortunately, there just doesn't seem to be any way to even get these people to see that, much less understand it. I guess they are just to "lost in their forest" of typical csu stuff and of course, they are never going to be as concerned about making good decisions as the parent. But I'm remaining positive about this step right now, especially to difficult child. [/QUOTE]
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